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Take a moment and listen to the sounds around you… Do this before you go on to the next paragraph. It’s okay, your life won’t come to a halt, no matter what your mind might tell you. :-)
What did you experience?
If you truly stopped and listened to whatever sounds are in your current environment, you were free of thoughts and emotions, even if just for a few seconds. In those seconds, when you weren’t referring to a “me” story about yourself, your past, future, or your current situation, nothing existed but the aliveness of this present moment.
You were just here, alert and present. Space opened up. Depending on how long you let your attention linger here, you felt a sense of calm, alive openness, even if just momentarily.
In order to listen, you had to let go of everything else in order to focus attention on sounds. This attention itself is what we actually ARE – alive, alert, open, spacious, intelligent Beingness.
To notice this Beingness, which is actually always here beneath the mental chatter, is a simple yet profound shift in perception.
What we usually consider “normal” is to live almost entirely in our minds. We pay attention to one thought after another, which creates the experience of a conceptual “me” which we then believe IS us.
However, at any moment, we can begin to notice the Space within which our thoughts, memories, emotions, body sensations, and experiences appear IN.
You can access this Space any moment you choose to stop and simply be alert to the sounds in your environment. Even if you don’t hear a sound, the actual listening for one brings your attention to alert, aware stillness – your own alive Presence.
This Presence we are is always here. YOU don’t come and go. YOU are eternal and ever present, here, now.
Many people I’ve spoken with recently have reported feeling more anxious than usual – physically, mentally and / or emotionally.
Besides feeling our own unresolved internal energies, many of us also feel and experience the unresolved issues of those around us and the world we live in. And, as I’m sure you’ve noticed, things are pretty churned up in the world right now.
After watching the news or being in a public place such as a subway or shopping center you might notice you feel more agitated than usual.
So, what to do?
First, I recommend simply being WITH what you are experiencing within. Bring your attention into your body. Be a witness, an observer to whatever sensation or feeling you notice, without labeling it “anxiety” or “fear” or any other label. Just let the energy be as it is and be present to it.
You’ll find help with this here: Energy Healing Therapy For Finding Happiness Within And Releasing Suffering and here: Meditation Therapy For Personal And Global Healing.
I’m also happy to coach you through it in a WellBeing Alignment Session.
I also highly recommend physical movement to give your body an outlet to release energy. Any type of movement exercise will do the trick, so just pick one you enjoy.
Personally, I like to do gentle yoga while listening to soothing music. Or sometimes I’m in the mood for music that is more energetic. As I listen I just let my body move how it spontaneously wants to rather than trying to follow a mental concept of a dance.
The body has immense intelligence and will heal itself if we just listen to it, let it do what it naturally wants to do and get out of the way mentally.
I also encourage you to give your body permission to emit vocal sounds as you’re moving. You might cry or laugh. Gargled sounds might come out. Your face might contort.
Whatever your body wants to do, just let it happen. Decline to believe any judgments your mind comes up with or to stifle anything your body wants to do in this natural process.
These are just a few examples of the many ways our bodies release pent up energy through movement.
Different types of music might appeal to you at different times for this type of releasing. You’ll find several internet music sites which offer a variety of music styles. You’ll be automatically drawn to what is best for you.
If dancing isn’t your thing, then pick a type of physical movement that is, whether it’s walking, running, tennis, racquet ball, playing baseball, swimming, etc. The important thing is to give the body an opportunity to move, which creates an outlet for it to let go of stuck energies, letting them move through you instead of being jammed up in the body.
You’ll find this brings relief to your emotional and mental bodies as well.
Generally, when pain arises, whether it is emotional, physical or mental, we try to make it go away. We take a pill or an herb, call a practitioner, or google ways to make it stop.
All of those options do have their place and I recommend doing whatever you feel drawn to in order to attend to your needs.
However, what I’d like to point to here is the window of opportunity for healing which opens when we become aware of any kind of pain within our being.
Energetic emotional, physical and psychological trauma wounds normally lie hidden and inaccessible within our unconscious. We either consciously or unconsciously push them down there because they can feel too overwhelming to deal with, both when we experienced the original trauma they stem from, or when they are triggered later, which inevitably happens.
However, pushing pain into the unconscious doesn’t mean it goes away, just as stuff you put in the basement of your house doesn’t go away. And actually, each time we consciously or unconsciously suppress an uncomfortable energy, that resistance actually feeds MORE energy to the pain.
If energetic wounds are within you, they will rise to the surface from time to time. Some event in your life will trigger them and reveal your inner pain. You’ll either become aware of a physical pain, tightness or discomfort, or a surge of emotion.
This can also take the form of so-called “accidents” where suddenly something happens that seems to cause us physical, emotional or psychological damage. However the cause of the “damage” was already within us. The “accident” just brings that energy out into conscious awareness.
Unconscious energetic wounds can be from past lives or from early life experience in this one. As far as healing goes, it doesn’t actually matter.
What’s important here is that when one or a combination of forms of pain is triggered within you, you now have ACCESS to these energies, which normally lay buried and inaccessible.
When pain arises into our awareness, it is a GOLDEN opportunity for healing, unless we fall back on the old habit of trying to ignore or suppress it, thus feeding the pain more energy.
Instead, we can simply BE with the experience of the pain consciously, accepting it as it is without trying to change it, staying out of our thoughts about the pain and being present to the energy itself.
Then, and only then can these energies unwind on their own, in their own way and in their own time.
These pages will help you with this:
“If you are not in the state of either acceptance, enjoyment, or enthusiasm, look closely and you will find that you are creating suffering for yourself and others… Whatever you cannot enjoy doing, you can at least accept that this is what you have to do. Acceptance means: for now, this is what this situation, this moment, requires me to do, and so I do it willingly.”
~ Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth
One of my greatest teachers is my own body. Being “sensitive” is a gift in many ways, especially when it comes to assisting others. However, it has it’s challenges: needing lots of quiet recharge time, and living with bouts of fatigue.
Through the years I’ve tried to get rid of fatigue through conventional and unconventional methods. Although some of it helped, fatigue still shows up from time to time.
Gradually, I’ve learned to accept it.
The reality is it’s here. Period. All my resistance to it only increased the fatigue, creating more suffering. What we resist we actually strengthen.
Finally, with a recent dance with fatigue, I gave up.
I let go into Eckhart Tolle’s question: “Can I accept this situation exactly as it is?”
When I get quiet, observe the heavy sensations in the body, decline to listen to the story in my head about it, and stop fighting fatigue, I can just be here with it. Then my attitude toward it shifts and there is gentleness around it.
I realized a cause of the fatigue is a clench of resistance to “what is” in other arenas of my life. This clench manifested in my body and used up some of my body’s life force. No wonder it gets exhausted!
Then resistance to the fatigue increased the clench, syphoning off even more life force.
I’m still not running marathons, but I have energy to do what my heart truly wants to do. What my “get it done” voice tells me I “should” do turns out to not be important. Accordingly, I feel much more relaxed and at peace.
In your life, think of your most troubling situation.
Ask within, “Can I accept this situation exactly as it is?” Ask your BEING, your Heart.
Notice that Beingness (the powerful aliveness which is uncovered when we don’t refer to our thoughts) has already been accepting your situation as it is. It is only our busy minds that create resistance and suffering.
Our situations resolve themselves in unimaginable ways which is best for all concerned, occurring within Life’s timetable, not our mind’s.
All we have to do is accept this moment exactly as it is. And every moment is always THIS moment.
Awhile back I talked with a dear friend who has victoriously come through a bout with cancer. After chemotherapy, then a year of healing from the chemo, she is now free of cancer.
I was inspired by the deep, powerful insights she shared. Through this wisdom she decided to stop doing anything she doesn’t want to do. This really caught my attention. Something simple and profound within me was uncovered.
Later, contemplating her words, my mind rebelled: “If I only do what I want I’ll be selfish.”
Then I realized if we do what our HEART’s natural inclination WANTS to do, we would never hurt another living being. We would be in alignment with the truth of the One Being we all are together.
This is one of the ways Truth guides us in this life for the greatest good: When we notice what we naturally WANT to do we are in tune with what WANTS to happen in our lives for the One Consciousness. It is the direction energy naturally wants to flow, without us trying to manufacture something from the mind only.
We don’t have to push for healing or awakening to the truth of being or to control or manufacture anything in our lives. Doing that may appear to give us something for awhile, but in the end sabotages the way life WANTS to take us, which is always the best thing for all life.
If an inspiration comes to do something that is for the greatest good, energy will automatically flow to do it. We don’t have to force ourselves to create something.
Going with the natural flow of things keeps us in harmony with all life. And we ARE all life.
We appear to be separate beings, but there is only one “thing” going on here and it is life. Aliveness. Everything in this dream, even inanimate objects, shines with the aliveness of the One Reality we all are. All forms will change and at some point disappear, but the source of all of them is eternal. It has always been here, and will always be here, even while the forms that appear within it are constantly changing.
I began putting my friend’s wisdom to work in my daily life, and it sure is making life simpler!
Rather than mentally weighing the pros and cons of any decision, we can be present in THIS moment and check within to see what WANTS to flow naturally. As we look within to see which option lights up the most, the other options fade more to the background.
Here’s an example: When I take my vitamin supplements in the morning, I no longer follow the daily regimen I had set up for myself. Instead, I notice which ones I naturally want to reach for, those I feel a natural flow and warmth toward.
(See Part Two below to continue…)
I’ve also had several realizations about ways I’ve sabotaged myself. For instance, I often pushed myself throughout the day to get “one more thing” done. This habit has taxed my adrenal glands in the past, creating debilitating fatigue.
Consequently, I learned to approach my day quite differently. I still look at my “to do” list but I notice which items I sincerely WANT to do. Some days I don’t want to do anything on it and so I don’t.
Sometimes doing this brings up fear, as the old conditioning and identification with being a “me” who likes to get things done gets exposed. Then the opportunity is to simply be present to the fear. To notice it.
By noticing I’m the “Noticer,” the awareness which sees it, eventually fears unwind.
In practicing this, I’m getting an experience of trusting Life in a new way. Life doesn’t conform itself to the plans my mind makes up for it, but it always ends up being in service to awakening ever more deeply to the truth of being conscious Awareness.
“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
~ John Lennon
Even when things happen that my mind would call “bad” when I decline to label it that way, there is a deeper trusting that Consciousness knows what it is doing.
This entire dream we share is happening within Consciousness, God, or whatever you wish to call It. Therefore Consciousness has ALLOWED everything that is happening. Nothing is a “mistake.”
The overall Divine Plan for this life is more than our limited minds can comprehend, but I’m realizing that I actually trust it now, even when outer circumstances can seem precarious.
When we do what we truly want to do, we’re going with the flow of life, rather than pushing against it, which is what we are often doing when we live solely from our mind’s dictates. There is an aliveness in this present moment that you can FEEL when you go with what naturally wants to happen, even if your mind doesn’t like it.
What is far more important than what our minds want is how this Beingness we are wants to flow.
This life will unfold for all of us in the way that best serves waking up the truth of Being. In my experience, sometimes this comes in the form of suffering which literally forces me to let go into what is.
Life is far easier when we listen within and tune into how IT wants to flow. And you can sense that flow in your daily life choices by checking within to see what direction lights up for you with warmth.
“I love you. Every time you say it, your barriers, your walls, your inner imprisonment dissolves. I love you.”
~ Matt Kahn, The Love Revolution – YouTube Video
Do you judge yourself when you get angry, sad, reactive, or fearful? Do you compare yourself to other people and come up short? Or do you sometimes feel superior to others?
If so, welcome to the human race. :-)
ALL of us have had different variations of the same kind of self-talk and so called “negative” emotions. And most of us think we’re the only ones who have them, or at least the only ones who have them as intensely as we do.
Intuitively we all know, or at least sense, that love is the key to healing and is the true reality of this waking dream we all experience.
However, many of us have had young experiences where our heart was open, vulnerable and naturally loving and then something about us wasn’t well received by someone around us, due to their own unhealed pain. As a result, we were verbally, physically or energetically hit in some way.
Generally, as vulnerable children or infants, the person we experience this intense energy with is an adult in a much bigger body, and is someone we naturally look to for the fulfillment of all our needs, from the primary requirements of food, water and shelter to love and nurturance.
When this person is directing painful and invasive energies toward us, as a young vulnerable child or infant, we aren’t in a position to do anything other than simply take in the intensity of what is being dealt to us. We have no defenses.
The natural, automatic, unconscious response of any organism or being in this kind of circumstance is to energetically withdraw our vulnerable heart inside in a natural attempt to try to protect it. When this type of experience happens repeatedly, at some point we can become completely out of touch with love.
As children, these painful emotional energies get stuffed within and later manifest as deep anger, fear and sadness as we get older. We may erupt over the smallest thing and have no idea why it is such a big deal.
I have experienced these type of energies as a deep clench going from my stomach all the way up into the throat.
To heal these painful energies all we need to do is to choose to bring kindness to these hurt aspects of ourselves. We don’t even have to know what is going on with them or how they originated. It is actually much simpler than that.
(See Part Two below to continue…)
Recently a dear friend shared the following talk by Matt Kahn with me and I found it to be delightful.
In this video Matt shows us a very simple way to love ourselves, everything and everyone. Even if you don’t know how to love yourself, or think you CAN’T love yourself or others, none of that will get in the way.
You can love the one all that is appearing in – YOU. And all it takes is three words, repeated again and again: “I love you.”
Sound too simple to be true? Watch this video and check it out for yourself.
You don’t have to change yourself before you can begin LOVING yourself, exactly as you are.
My experience is that by giving up any agenda to fix or change these painful, tight, constricted inner energies, by accepting them exactly as they are, and by bringing love (even if it is just the INTENTION of love at first) to them, the love itself does the healing and they release on their own, gradually, layer by layer.
This talk by Matt Kahn can help you with this:
I’m also very happy to help you with this and other doorways into healing current and past trauma in a WellBeing Alignment Session.
One of the biggest misconceptions about spiritual awakening I've encountered, both in my own life and in the lives of my clients, is the belief that in order to awaken to the truth and reality of Being, we must create a better, improved "me," or an enlightened "me."
We believe we are a conglomeration of a body, mind, thoughts, memories, history, opinions, emotions, and sensations. Then as we become interested in spiritual awakening, many of us develop the belief that we need to "enlighten" and improve this conglomeration, or personality, we believe is us.
This is like the figure you believe you are in your dream at night believing they have to change the character they experience as the reality of themselves in order to wake up OUT of the dream.
The "you" you are dreaming you are in the dream can be ANY kind of character, from a victim to a villain or anything in between, and still, upon awakening from the dream, that person is seen to be a made up persona, an illusion, which you believed really WAS who you were.
No matter what that character in your dream does to try to improve themselves, ultimately, you awaken from your nightly dream and the "you" you thought you were, as well as EVERYTHING in the dream evaporates into the open, alert, intelligent aware space of Consciousness it arose IN.
However, then we wake up into THIS body and then believe THIS character is the REAL us, not realizing it is made up of the same illusory material as the "me" we thought we were in the dream.
Awakening to the truth of Being is assured, because we already ARE pure, conscious Awareness, even while we are dreaming we are something else.
We can wake up in THIS dream, even while it is occurring...
(See Part Two below to continue…)
Events and circumstances in our lives (this dream) trigger and uncover all the ways we are identified with being a separate, limited body/mind, instead of the spacious Awareness this experience is appearing IN.
In fact, in our desire and willingness to awaken to the truth of Being, our suffering in this dream can actually intensify.
This actually serves an incredibly valuable purpose: At some point in our suffering, after we have investigated many books, paths, teachers, and teachings in order to try to find the way out of suffering, we finally realize the freedom we are searching for isn't "out there" somewhere.
It begins to dawn on us that what is real, true and already at peace is not only already within ourselves, it IS us.
So how can you get to know yourself as pure Being?
Bring your attention to this present moment.
Let your attention rest on an object in your field of vision. At first, just notice the details of whatever you're looking at.
Next, rather than all your attention flowing out to the object, let your physical eyes rest on the object, but let the bulk of your attention rest back onto itself rather than the object.
Become aware of yourself as the one who is doing the looking.
This "one" isn’t your history or your thoughts about yourself. Rather, it is an alive, awake pure Energy which isn't hampered by any of that. It is simply here, still, quiet, alive, alert, awake and aware.
As you shift your attention to the "one" who is doing the looking, awareness, presence – the reality of Being – becomes consciously aware of itself.
This is what is real, permanent, true, lasting peace – pure Beingness, the true "I" which you are. This is what is REAL. This entire dream arises and eventually dissolves back into this alert alive Presence. This aware Presence is the reality of you, me, all life, and everything appearing in this dream.
So… when we let go of trying to be a better "me" and realize we are Presence itself, then the personality we formerly thought we were gradually shifts to a more loving, compassionate presence as well. This occurs energetically, naturally and in its own time.
This isn't something we can plan. Rather, it comes about gradually from letting go and surrendering to the reality of Being.
"The bad news is you're falling through the air, nothing to hang on to, no parachute. The good news is, there's no ground."
~ Chögyam Trungpa
We all try to create an illusion of having control over our lives but is this actually true? Did you plan your life up to now? Is it happening according to your plans?
Or is it simply happening all by itself?
When coming to an intersection it may appear you choose to turn left or right, but where did that choice come from?
I've discovered that all choices come from previous conditioning, and conditioning itself came from the conditioning of the significant people in my life. Likewise, THEIR conditioning came from the people in their lives, and so on.
Similarly, in our nightly dreams, we suddenly appear as a character with pre-conditioned choices and issues. Then the character and dream end at some point.
This life is a dream as well. The only difference between it and the nightly ones is this one appears to last longer.
Although the experience of being a character comes and goes, WE, consciousness don't come and go. We are what dreams appear and disappear IN.
Within this dream we dream together, the struggle to keep the illusion of control creates suffering, both for ourselves and others.
Our conditioning tells us to hold onto our judgments, beliefs, and familiar patterns, in an attempt to insure we'll never be hurt again. We think holding grudges will keep a barrier between us and pain.
But what actually happens is we place an illusionary barrier between ourselves and love.
Also, our conditioning tells us to try to plan for what we want the future to look like, mostly to avoid what we didn't like in the past. All of this keeps us in our heads, where suffering is created.
Generally, these ways of holding on to our conditioning is so much a part of our experience that we don't even notice it until it builds up as some form of anxiety.
Interestingly, all of this is only happening in our thoughts: pushing against the past, present and future, which creates an illusion of a "me" who needs protecting, and a clenching tension in the body.
Then we distract ourselves by checking our phones, watching TV, grabbing a coffee or a snack, etc.
There is nothing wrong with any of these. It's just helpful to see what is driving the impulse to avoid present experience.
So how can we begin to release our conditioning and wake up in this dream? These pages can help:
What if there is nothing wrong with you?
What if there is nothing wrong with your life?
What if there is nothing wrong with the world?
What if there is nothing wrong, period?
Most of us spend our entire lives creating suffering in our heads. Our attention is focused almost exclusively on what happened, what "shouldn't" have happened and what we're afraid might happen. And then we wonder why we suffer!
We really are funny critters.
In this moment, if you don't refer to any thought of the past or the future, or even of the present, is there a problem?
I highly recommend taking some time each day to sit quietly and just notice your thoughts, but without referring to them as reality. Just see them. Then ask within, "What is it that SEES these thoughts?"
The question isn't meant to stimulate another round of thoughts. Instead it is to point our attention to what SEES the thoughts. To NOTICE what sees the thoughts. What is aware of the thoughts.
What you can discover is that you aren't a problem to be solved. Your life is not a problem to be solved.
You are the alert, alive, silent, vast, all-embracing, loving attention which notices thoughts, emotions, sensations, experiences.
But in order to KNOW ourselves as this, we must be sincerely willing to do what it takes to first discover it, and then to live from here.
In my experience the sincere willingness to do what it takes to investigate the truth of being and then to make the ongoing daily choice to live from here, only came about through suffering.
This is how suffering serves a purpose in our lives.
It seems most of us have to go through the process of checking out what the world has to offer and discovering there is only temporary happiness in experiences.
This dream is based on polarity. What feels good will always flip into what feels bad, and vice versa.
However, we are the consciousness which SEES both the fun and the "not fun" and isn't touched by any of it.
But it does seem we must go through many rounds of the up/down stuff before we start to catch on to what is happening and look for something REAL that never changes, something deeper within this life.
If you're still reading this article, you're either at that place or getting close. Otherwise, you wouldn't be even remotely interested in this site and would have never found your way here.
I recommend to you what I described above. Take some time to sit quietly each day and notice the quietness which is here when you don't refer to any thought. The more you bring attention to this, the more deeply you can get to know yourself as Reality.
And this is the ONLY true, never-changing peace there is.
Lately I've been feeling an inner anxiety, with varying intensity. Interestingly, this has also been coming up in the lives of many people I work with in WellBeing Alignment Sessions.
Through the teachings of Adyashanti I'm getting more insight as to what is going on with this for all of us and how to lovingly be with it.
Anxiety, extreme fear, is a part of us saying "NO." It might be "no" to something happening in your life, "no" to yourself, or "no" to letting go of control or judgment.
You might feel it in the stomach, sometimes going all the way up to the throat, as a kind of clench. Thoughts can also speed up and you may find yourself more reactive to people, situations and even yourself.
I'm discovering there is an unconscious part of us which also sometimes says "no" to awakening more fully to the truth of our Being. As we turn toward meditation or any avenue pointed into discovering and living from Reality, it is very common for anxiety to arise.
A part of us believes our thoughts and story about ourselves IS us. Then as we begin to discover we are Pure Awareness, the old identification with our story starts to freak out, basically. This can feel like a kind of death. And it IS a death – the death of identification with suffering.
I find it very interesting that all suffering is actually generated by thoughts!
In this moment, ask within, "What am I holding on to in this moment?" Then, rather than getting involved in thinking about it, just notice what you are clinging to, without judging it.
Then, even if just for a few seconds, let go of your thoughts about the past, present or future.
Isn't it interesting that when we don't refer to our thoughts about anxiety, sadness, or any intense emotion, it actually isn't a problem? It may be an intense experience, yes. But check… is it actually a problem to the Awareness which is aware of it?
You can also ask yourself, "If I don't refer to my thoughts, is there actually any threat to myself in this moment?"
Unless a wild animal is chasing you right now, you will most likely discover that nothing is actually threatening you. There may be thoughts about what could happen in the future, or what you believe shouldn't have happened in the past, or even about what you believe shouldn't be happening in your life right now.
However, when you "stand" in what is aware of all that, even if your body was dying in this moment, you'll notice that Awareness isn't hurt or changed by any of it.
Below are some practices to help you when you feel an intensity of anger, fear, sadness, or any sensation. (See Part Two below to continue…)
First, take some time to sit quietly, just watching your breathing for a few minutes. Then bring attention to the inside of your body and notice where it feels tight or uncomfortable. Next:
1. Don't try to make any sensation go away. Let go of pushing against it or judging it. Let it be as it is. Notice that as you let them be here, intense emotions / sensations don't actually hurt you.
2. Decide to FEEL what is arising. Release trying to avoid feeling it.
3. Breathe in from your belly up to your heart. Then as you breathe out, breathe from your heart to wherever you feel the sensation (of anger, fear, sadness, etc.) in your body. As you do this say (silently or aloud) "I love you" to the sensation.
Even if you don't feel love, still say the words (silently or aloud), with your attention on the words as you say them to wherever the uncomfortableness is in your body. Repeat this slowly for a few minutes.
4. If you don't feel love, don’t judge yourself. Just notice you don’t feel it. Take a few minutes and breathe the image and feeling of warm, soft sunlight into your heart. You can also think of someone you love and appreciate, and breathe that feeling of love into your heart.
Then breathe this love to the sensation of emotional intensity in your body.
Remember, the intention isn't to make the sensation go away. That just adds more tension to the situation because it creates the illusion of an inner conflict.
Eventually, the tension will let go. It could happen in 5 minutes, several weeks, years, or lifetimes.
You'll discover the more you bring love to your inner sensations and emotions, the less you'll be focused on trying to get rid of them, and they will let go.
We all have unique paths to awakening and we're all at different places on this path. I've discovered that EVERYTHING appearing in this life is in service to us waking up to the truth of being, including suffering.
In fact, suffering has been one of the biggest stimulants toward awakening in my life. It has caused me to look within to find out what never suffers, even in the midst of what the mind would label suffering.
By the way, you can use this practice on behalf of the entire world as well. Breathe in the world and all its inhabitants, exactly as it is in this moment with all it's suffering and its joys.
Then breathe out love to it all, saying "I love you."
One of the best ways I know to experience love is to give it.
I highly recommend this video by Adyashanti.
He speaks in great detail about awakening from the illusion of the “me.” As we awaken spiritually there is a profound letting go of the false self, not only from mind, but also on the level of the heart and the gut.
There are distinct, deeply felt experiences you will notice which are signposts that awakening is taking place.
This video is especially helpful for anyone who has had a glimpse of their true Being, but find themselves falling back into identification with the “me.”
True forgiveness prayer only occurs within the truth of Being, not in the mind. Lovingly allowing ourselves to feel our intense inner emotions, we open the door to healing for ourselves and others.
What do you do when you have uncomfortable feelings? Check out these meditation therapy practices to learn how to feel your feelings in a healing way and discover the truth of your Being.
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where there are no points of view.
Slip under good and bad
right and wrong
worthy and unworthy
sinner and saint.
Meet me here
where everything is unframed
and not understanding.
Meet me here
where silence roars
where stillness is dancing
where the eternal is living and dying.
Meet me here
where you are not you
where you are It
and It is unspeakable.
Meet me here
where all points of view
merge into a single point
that then disappears.
Meet me here
before there ever was something
before there ever was nothing.
Meet me here
where everything speaks of this
where everything has
always spoken this
where nothing is ever lost or found.
Meet me here.
~ Adyashanti, My Secret Is Silence
"Before you start to meditate, ask yourself a question: Is it true that peace and silence are not here now?
With our intention to move towards quietness, the first step we take is away from it because we assume it's not here already."
In this moment right now, notice what is already quiet within you.
There may be thoughts, emotions, and body sensations, but what is aware of them? Notice awareness itself is completely still, quiet and at peace.
For just this moment don't reach for anything. Don't try to push anything away.
Let go. Let everything empty out. Notice the natural inclination toward openness which occurs when you relax.
Let go of trying to understand or attain anything. Give up all trying. ALL trying.
You can do all that later if you wish.
But for right NOW, just this moment, notice this empty, vast shiningness that is simply here, looking through your eyes.
It has no name, history, or preferences. No story. No limits. It can't be contained or restricted.
This is what is real and eternal. This is what we've all been seeking but didn't know it. This is YOU. Reality.
This has never not been and will never go away.
This YOU is also what I am, what we all are, what everything is in its essence.
You don't have to attain this. You already ARE this and could never be anything other than this.
The "me” we think we are seems to be real because we group together our thoughts, feelings, conditioning and experience of a body into a concept.
Then we believe that concept IS us.
If you say out loud or to yourself, "I am (your name),” notice what you experience within at the same time. If you really pay attention, you can notice a feeling of tightness in the body accompanying those words, and an experience of being separate from all other bodies and life itself.
We literally create a FEELING of separateness from believing our thoughts and our concepts of separateness.
Now ask within, "What am I really?”
Don't ask your mind. Ask TRUTH itself. Look for this "I" which goes by your name. What do you find? Do you find an actual entity or thing?
You might find a body sensation, thought, or an emotion. But can you find an actual thing that is you?
What you'll find if you look carefully enough and with a heartfelt intention to know the truth, is empty space. An unlimited, unencumbered, quiet, serene, alive, shining, intelligent, loving spaciousness that is all life.
And you don't have to attain this. You don't have to try to figure out how to be this. You already ARE this. Now. Always. Forever.
All we have to do is turn attention toward this which we simply ARE.
Are you free?
It is possible to have many freedoms and still not actually be or feel free.
The only way to truly be free is to first discover and then live from the TRUE spiritual freedom we actually already ARE within.
How much time do you spend trying to find happiness? Has anything you’ve tried worked permanently?
Maybe you’ve been looking in the wrong place.
Staying engaged in trying to find happiness is predicated on the belief that it isn’t already HERE.
The very search to find happiness keeps our attention distracted away for the true essence of happiness we already are…
Awhile back I found myself in conflict with a friend. We were like two bulls facing off. I wanted one thing and felt I had a "right" to it, and he wanted the opposite thing, and felt just as entitled to what he wanted.
It was the classic conflict situation of "I'm right and you're wrong."
I began to see that holding onto the energy of being "right" and making him "wrong" completely insured the situation we faced together would NOT be harmoniously resolved.
Finally, I was willing to stop listening to my story about what should happen. I became willing to simply not know what to do, which, of course, was the truth.
I got quiet and empty within and asked, "What is Consciousness trying to show me about this experience?"
I quickly realized I was seeing the situation with my friend through the lens of my own unresolved issues and fears about being overpowered by others.
As I deeply let go, I heard the words "Let him win."
Surprisingly, my body, mind and emotions began to relax and open.
I saw that what had been MOST important about the issue we were at odds about was that I wanted to win. I had fooled myself into believing it was about the issue we disagreed on, but I saw that what was MOST important to me was to not be overpowered by my friend.
When I let go of the power struggle, I immediately felt a different power, one that has no need to overtake, prove or enforce it's "rightness." It is a power of love, of all inclusiveness.
I saw that this is actually the only true power.
The power I was trying to use wasn't power at all. It was simply a mental mock up of a false power that was actually just a tactic to try to avoid the fear of not having power. I knew that acting from that energy would not lead to anything pleasant for either of us… (See Part Two below to continue…)
Sensing the situation would be resolved in whatever way that Consciousness intended for it to unfold, I knew it would be a playing out of cause and effect relationships that encompassed much more than just the lifetimes of the Kai character and her friend. I saw that we were both characters in a drama that went far beyond what either of us could see.
Later that night a possible solution to our "problem" came to me out of the blue.
The next day my friend came over and I saw him through new eyes, from an open-hearted, open-minded place of unconditional love.
While he was here, as I told him about the possible solution that had come to me, his whole demeanor relaxed before my eyes. He immediately agreed to the solution and it was quickly implemented. Problem solved.
In each situation we face, we can ask Consciousness, this pure Presence we are, "What do you want to happen here?" Then we can stop and feel / sense into how things want to flow. This is like how water in a stream naturally flows around rocks in its path. It doesn't have to think about which way to turn. It simply follows a natural flow.
As we release control and sense into situations, listening for what the next step is that Truth is trying to show us, sometimes the answer is to take no step at all. Sometimes what the moment calls for is to just be. To let the moment be as it is, with its insecurities, fear, anger, sadness, frustration, or joy and openness.
If, for even a moment, we can decline to follow the story we tell ourselves about our experience, we can just let our feelings and sensations be as they are without judging them, ourselves, or others involved as being "bad" or "good." We simply are.
When it is time to act, we'll know. We'll feel naturally motivated in a certain direction which comes from a simple sense of clarity rather than from trying to avoid an uncomfortable feeling within.
In my experience, this makes for a much easier ride through life, when I remember and am willing to let go of my story, to let a situation, myself and everyone involved be as they are, and to listen within for what is true before taking a step forward.
If we're not consciously in touch with love, no emotional or psychological healing can occur. It simply is not possible.
So what can you do if you're not feeling love?
Go to the hurt place you feel within you and get in touch with the compassion you have for this hurt place, for yourself, your being. Find and connect with the love you have for yourself. It's there, underneath blame, fear, anger, sadness, and the story the mind tells.
You can find the love simply by turning within to what hurts. We find a vulnerable, tender place underneath the ways we try to protect ourselves and fend off more hurt. Be with this tender, vulnerable place inside of you. Get in touch with the love within you which is there for this hurt place. Notice that you do love yourself. The love is already there.
From this place of loving yourself, healing can occur. Unless we're in touch with love, healing is impossible. Until then we get caught up in blame, anger, fear, resistance and a mental story about who did what to who, all as an attempt to try to protect ourselves. However getting stuck in these surface energies only increases the pain. They can only be healed in a field of love.
This audio by spiritual teacher Adyashanti can help you with this:
Take a moment and notice the objects around your body. Now, shift your attention to the air these things are appearing IN. Observe that when your attention is fully on the objects it is impossible to have your attention simultaneously fully on the air.
This is similar to our thoughts in relationship to the peace of pure being.
Suffering results from keeping our attention on the past or the future, actually on thoughts ABOUT the past or future, which pulls our attention away from the pure, peaceful consciousness the thoughts appear IN.
You'll never find the peace of your being in the mind. It's simply not there. Even though you can have a peaceful thought, who you are is not a thought. You are the awake, aware, alert presence your thoughts, images, memories, feelings, and perceptions arise IN, regardless of whether they are painful or enjoyable.
For just this moment let go of the past and the future. Pretend they don't exist. Don't worry, you can get involved in them later if you want to. But for right now, completely let go of all that happened in the past or could happen in the future. Pretend you've never heard of a thing called "time."
Notice that when you let go of time, YOU are still here.
Ask within, "What is this that I am, this which is here when I let go of past and future?"
Observe that in the first few seconds (before your attention goes back to thoughts), there is space, emptiness, where there is literally nothing. No "thing."
Notice this which is "no thing" is alive, aware and totally unencumbered. Free.
This is YOU. This is here all along, even when thoughts appear IN this.
We have the ability to narrow our attention down to a thought or perception, like a camera lens can narrow down to an ant. When we relax that mechanism, even for just a moment, we begin to experience a calm spaciousness.
This is the truth of your being.
We often believe that awakening to the truth of being is a grand event and the "me" I thought I was will somehow change into a new and better "me" and something will be added to us.
However, the "me" you thought you were, or imagine you will be when you awaken is just a thought!
Awakening is to notice what is here, whether a thought of an awake "me" or a suffering "me" appears in it.
When we let go of concepts about what awakening is and are simply here, noticing the spaciousness that all our experience appears and disappears in, we realize this exotic thing called "awakening" is actually the most natural state we have been experiencing all along.
We simply hadn't noticed it!
Your self-concept is what you believe you ARE. Made up of core self-beliefs that limit your experience of yourself, it causes suffering because it’s not actually YOU.
Just as the operating system on your computer runs in the background and controls your experience of your computer, likewise your self-concept dictates how you experience your entire life.
Because this collection of beliefs (and the thoughts related to them) recycles pretty much continually in most peoples’ lives, it creates the illusion that we ARE this collection of thoughts and beliefs.
In this 4-part series you’ll be guided through a step-by-step process to help you uncover and free yourself from the limiting influence of your self-concept, allowing it to unwind on it’s own. This is how you can begin to experience the peace you actually already are.
This unlimited aliveness that is YOU has been here all along, even though your attention may have been on the narrator of your life, rather than the beingness of your life.
This series will help you uncover and experience the truth of your Being that you already are right now in this moment.
Help is here for you if you are in emotional pain and suffering. Learn what is at the root of your emotional trauma, how to fully accept and feel it as it is with loving compassion for yourself, and let it release naturally on its own. This page will guide you through this step by step. You’ll also learn about the traps we can fall into as we open to emotional healing, and how to move through them.
(This page replaces the old page entitled: “Emotional Pain — To Heal It We Need To Acknowledge It”)
Within all the 7 billion people on the planet, no two of us share the same exact perspective. It is as if we are all viewing ourselves, everyone else, and the planet through a unique lens, based on our conditioning.
If I'm looking through a blue lens and the person next to me is looking through a yellow lens, can I honestly say the other person's perspective is wrong, just because it doesn't match with my blue lens perspective?
How can any of us say with absolute certainty that something is true on this relative plane of existence? Actually NOTHING here is true, from the perspective of the Absolute (Consciousness, Spirit), other than the Absolute itself.
This entire life experience is a multi-layered dream, no different from the dreams we have at night when the body sleeps. Everything in this dream is temporary. Everything here has a birth and a death.
If it has a death, it can't be Absolute.
What we are IS the Absolute. We are what the dream arises IN.
Think of something you believe about yourself and distill it down to one statement. For example: "I'm not good enough."
Now ask, is this absolutely true?
You don't even need to answer the question. Simply QUESTION that belief, even if just for a moment.
Now, in your mind, add another statement, laying it beside the previous one. "I'm good."
Don't try to replace the first statement with the second one. Let them both co-exist within you, even if just for a moment. Notice, depending on what perspective you're looking through, both of them can seem true. Likewise both of them can seem false.
Ultimately neither of them are true, because YOU are not a concept. You are Awareness, the space that both of those concepts arise in.
Now ask yourself:
"What am I without a concept about who I am?"
"If I give up all concepts about myself in this moment, what is left?"
"What am I, really?"
"What is the Absolute truth of who I am?"
Don't try to answer any of these questions with your mind. Simply ask and be here, alert and noticing. Notice this that is you, which is not your thoughts or experiences. Notice the alive, present Awareness which is here, noticing.
So, if we can't be held to a concept, we can't hold others to our concepts of who we think THEY are either, or even who they think they are. :-)
Actually, all we know for sure is this which is here in this moment – this alert, alive presence which you are, within which there is the experience of reading these words, here, and now. This Aliveness you can KNOW with certainty. Everything else is the dream and will end at some point.
You, the Absolute, are eternal.
Think of something you want. Now, look at why you want it. You believe that if you have it, it will bring you happiness, right? Otherwise, why would you want it?
However, have you noticed that even when you get what you want, the joy of having it only lasts briefly? We start to notice flaws in our new treasure, and then fixate on the next thing we want.
It seems that in order to finally be willing to look for happiness in the only "place" it actually is, first we have to explore all the things we THINK will make us happy first. This includes experiences and anything that comes and goes, which is everything in this dream.
Eventually, we notice that permanent happiness isn't in the getting of what we want. This seems to only occur after many lifetimes of looking in every possible arena of life for lasting happiness — experiences, relationships, money, career, accomplishments, etc.
If you've read this far and you're still reading, you are most likely at this stage of spiritual maturity.
Spiritual practices can point you toward the truth of Being, but even they fall away once they've served their purpose: to NOTICE this that is here, alert, and at peace ALREADY… right in this moment.
When you think of something you want, instead of focusing on the thing, turn toward the "I" who wants it. Ask within, "who wants this thing?" Look for this "I."
You might notice body sensations, emotions, thoughts and concepts you've learned about being a body, memories, and etc. All of this comes and goes. But If it comes and goes, it can't be you because you are what is always here, before an experience, thought, emotion and etc. appear, during it's appearance, and still here after it leaves.
Turn your attention to this that is always here.
As you breathe in and before you breathe back out, notice there is a space where there is no breath. Prolong that space for a few seconds. Notice the alive, alert energy that is you that is still here in that space. Then when you breathe back out, keep your attention on this same space.
Notice that this energy doesn't require a body or thoughts for it's existence. The sensations of the body, emotions and thought arise IN it. They appear and disappear, and you, Awareness remain.
This is permanent peace. Always here, but we don't notice it when our attention is elsewhere.
Even when you think "I am suffering," you, Awareness are aware OF that thought and the emotions and body sensations produced by that thought.
Get more interested in "Who / what is this I?" and you will find peace if you continue to turn your attention toward it. Notice it. Be This.
In this video Adyashanti clearly describes the traps we all fall into as we awaken to the truth of Being. He cuts right through the illusions and brings our attention directly and clearly to this pure Presence we already are, have always been, and will always be. Simply beautiful. I highly recommend it!
Everyone is in the process of awakening to the truth of pure Beingness. Why? Because we already ARE pure Beingness.
Sometimes, as we begin to awaken from this dream, we feel, "I have a concept of Beingness, of the Self, but I don't experience it. I'm still unhappy."
There is an expectation that we should somehow achieve a new state of joy and that the old state of unhappiness has to go in order for us to have the state we desire.
However, if something can come which wasn't here before, including a state of happiness, it will also go.
This doesn't mean you can't know happiness. You already ARE happiness. You just need to turn your attention to Beingness itself, which is inherently happy and isn't a state which comes and goes.
"IT is. Simple BEING."
~ Sri Ramana Maharshi
Your attention may come and go away from Beingness, but Beingness itself doesn't ever come and go. It is always here, ever present. Has always been here. Will always be here. Right now, you already are this this ever present Beingness.
You are not a state. You are what states come and go in, the Aliveness which you are right now, as you read this.
Within, say the word "I." Rest in this "I." Let the word gently repeat over and over. Even if just for a few seconds, let thoughts, feelings, sensations, and images go. Let go of everything but this "I." Get really interested in this "I."
Don't you really want to know what you actually are? Don't you want to know yourself as happiness? Pour your real sincerity into this practice.
Find out what is the "you" which is here, before a state of unhappiness comes, still here while unhappiness arises, and still here after unhappiness goes.
Let go of any preconceived ideas about what you think you are supposed to experience and what "awakening" or "enlightenment" are.
Simply shift your attention to what is already awake and alive… (See Part Two below to continue…)
Turn your attention toward the alive, present, aware energy which is you – always simply HERE. You are this unchanging presence, the Beingness which all experience comes and goes IN.
When you experience unhappiness, ask within, "Who is experiencing this?" Rather than doing this as a mental exercise, instead, with your attention, dive inward, LOOKING for the experiencer – the aliveness which is you, simply here.
Then do the same thing when you experience joy. Perhaps something new happens in your life that you like and with it comes a feeling of joy, which seems like it wasn't here before. Ask within, "Who is experiencing this feeling?"
Joy is our natural state. The thing, person or experience we think is giving us joy is only a trigger to unveil what we already are.
If there is a longing for something and then that thing comes, the pain of longing, whether it was conscious or unconscious, relaxes, at least for awhile. Then we think this person, substance or experience is the cause of the joy.
However, the joy of Being – what we already are – is simply momentarily uncovered.
Happiness based on something in the dream will flip into unhappiness at some point, because it is object based rather than Reality based. Soon after we get something we want, we're onto the next thing we want, and again the longing comes.
Ask within, "Who or what wants this?" "Who is lacking something?" "Who am I?"
Again, this is not a mental exercise. It is a turning of attention and looking for the "I" which is always here. Whether something fun or something you don't like shows up, this "I" is always here, always the same, always at peace.
Be this "I" which you already are.
To know yourself as permanent peace, shift your attention to "Who is experiencing this?" no matter what you are experiencing. You can do this again and again, throughout your day.
The more you do this and truly look for the "I," the more you'll begin to know and experience this "I" as your reality.
Try this little experiment:
Right now, purposely stop breathing. You don't even have to take a deep breath in first. Just consciously stop breathing for a few seconds. Don't worry, it won't hurt the body and you can breathe again whenever you want.
During the time breath is withheld, bring all your attention to the alert aliveness which is here in this present moment. Then go back to regular breathing when you're ready. Go back and forth a few times. Each time breath is withheld, bring your attention even more fully to the life force which is simply here.
Now, do it again, and as you begin breathing again, keep your attention in the same "place" that it was in when you withheld breath. Notice you can deepen your experience of this pure aliveness just by keeping your attention on it.
Breath and thoughts arise together, out of this alert, alive presence which is you. When we withhold breath, thoughts stop as well, at least temporarily, allowing us to consciously experience the alive present, shimmering Awareness (Us!) which is revealed underneath the thoughts.
In the physical / mental / emotional energy field, if life seems to be threatened, all attention automatically focuses on one thing: the saving of life. So when our breath stops, the mind can't afford to waste attention on external objects. It brings a laser focus to the present moment, the life center, to what animates the body in the first place – pure consciousness, aware and alert.
Momentarily stopping the breath is a way to quickly part the veil (even if just for a few seconds) which seems to hide our Self. Notice during those precious few seconds when attention is on Self, there is no suffering, no thoughts, no concept of a "me" which has to defend against anything or grasp for anything. There is infinite peace in Awareness itself.
Even when thoughts come back in, such as "I need to start breathing again," for a time there is still an awareness of awareness at the same time. Thoughts and awareness seem to overlap.
By choosing to keep your attention on the aliveness itself – Awareness – even as thoughts appear again, your experience of Self deepens.
Self will continue to call your attention back to It because this is what you actually are. You can still think, function, enjoy, and live your life, but you live it from alive Awareness rather than the belief of being packaged inside a body / mind, which we have had a habit of believing is who we are for eons.
This exercise of withholding breath is one way to get to know your Self as permanent, uninterrupted Peace.
Awakening to the Light of your Self isn't a mystical, unusual experience reserved for a special few.
Right now in this moment, you already are the Self.
Release imaginings about what enlightenment is. Ask yourself, "Do I exist?" Your answer of course will be "Yes." But instead of going to your mind for the answer, check your experience. Are you here? Of course you are. There is SOMETHING which is you which is here.
Bring your attention to this aliveness. Ignore sense organ perceptions, images, thoughts or emotions. Instead, get interested in the you which is aware of passing phenomena.
Say the word "I," repeating it every few seconds when your attention goes back to thought.
Notice this "I" which is always here, as you.
What is the common denominator of all your past experiences? You. You were here while experiences came and went. All those "you's" are exactly the same "you" which is here right now.
Experiences move through you, like a movie moves through a computer screen. Before the movie started, after it ended, and during all the ups and downs of the movie events, the screen is still exactly the same.
Ask "Who am I?" Again, don't ask your mind. Stay with your experience. Pretend you are a newborn baby and you've never learned concepts of bodies and minds. All you know is that you are here. Notice the aliveness which is you, here, now.
As you repeat "I….…I……..I," with your attention go deeply into this "I." Investigate it with your attention. You will find SOMETHING is here. It isn't your thoughts, emotions or sensations; they come and go. But YOU are here before they come, while they are here, and after they leave.
Be this which exists. You are ALREADY being this anyway. We are just bringing your attention to this "I am" which is already you, existence, light.
As you do this, notice tightness lets go. There is freedom. Notice this "I" isn't in a specific location or limited to a particular spot, such as the body.
It is dimensionless. It is an alive, alert, present, light. Simply here, at peace.
If you practice this daily you will know yourself AS this peace more and more deeply.
This most precious experience, ourselves as this peaceful "I" who is always here, is what is most overlooked. Why? Because "I" IS always here. Attention gets pulled away from what is always here to what keeps changing.
We are conditioned to focus on anything and everything BESIDES this quiet, alive Presence we already are which is perfectly happy.
As thoughts, emotions and experiences arise, ask "What are they arising IN? Who is experiencing this? Who is angry? Who is happy?"
Remember: don't ask your mind. Keep it simple. Ask the question, then investigate your experience. If you're interested in going for a swim, there is a huge difference between googling and reading about swimming versus diving into a lake. :-)
You CAN be free of suffering. How?
By wanting to know the Truth of your Being more than you want anything else, then devoting yourself to it.
Not sure how to make Truth your highest priority?
Ask The Divine for help, in whatever form or formlessness you know It by — God, Brahman, Spirit, Lord, Love, a fully realized being you feel drawn to, a holy picture, nature, the sun…
Ask to be shown how to experience your Self. Ask daily, sincerely and regularly.
We already are Pure Peace. But to fully realize and experience this involves wanting it more than anything else, asking for it, giving your devotion to it, then constantly CHOOSING it.
For most of my life I didn't realize I COULD ask The Divine for peace. I didn't know I had the "right" to. I just figured I had to work hard and do all the spiritual practices I was drawn to and if I was "good" enough I'd know the Peace of Being.
Then a friend told me about prostrating himself in front of his Divine Teacher and ASKING for his blessings.
When I pictured him doing that, a door in my heart opened in a flood of love and grace.
I began a daily practice of lying on the floor, stretched out, face down in front of a picture of my Beloved Teacher, Bhagavan Ramana Maharshi. I asked him for his blessing to help me to continually live in the Truth of Being. As I did this, I surrendered on both an inner and a body level, and on every level I was aware of.
Day after day, as I continued this practice, I felt encouraged to be bolder. I went from timidly asking to boldly demanding:
"Dear Ramana, guide me into the deepest truth of my being. Direct my attention there, then MAKE me hold onto it."
I've discovered that in order to be free of suffering, there needs to be an intense eagerness to know the Truth of our Being. In my experience I would even go so far as to say a fierce devotion is required.
As my Teacher says:
"You give up this and that of 'my' possessions.
If you give up 'I' and 'mine' instead, all are give up at a stroke.
The very seed of possession is lost.
Thus the evil is nipped in the bud or crushed in the germ itself.
Dispassion must be very strong to do this.
Eagerness to do it must be equal to that of a man kept under water trying to rise up to the surface for his life."
~ Sri Ramana Maharshi
Biblical images of the lion and the lamb express what is needed – a combination of deep surrender, intense devotion, and adamantly demanding to know and live the Truth of Being. It is the devotion to True Being which opens the floodgates of love and grace.
We must surrender everything except the sacred desire to know our Self. You are free to not only ask for this, but to demand to LIVE in the Truth of Being. Don't settle for anything less.
This is different from demanding a new car or yet another egoic fulfillment. Instead, we demand to know and live as what we actually ALREADY are!
The sacred desire to be free of suffering is itself already infused with the power of the truth of who we actually are — pure consciousness.
As I continue to practice this, the heart continues to open in a warm melting sensation of grace and love. This produces even stronger surrender and devotion to the Truth of Being, which then opens the heart even further. Thus, the cycle continues…
To get to this intense devotion, we first have to have suffered enough to be willing to do whatever it takes to be free of anguish. After looking for permanent happiness in all aspects of this dream — relationships, career, experiences, sensations, the body and etc. — and not finding permanent peace there, we begin to "get it" that it isn't "out there." At this point we are ready to turn toward the only place we haven't yet investigated: within.
However, because the habit of looking to the aspects of the dream for happiness is so strong, it takes a fierceness in aligning ourselves with the Truth of Being, an intense devotion to wanting to KNOW and LIVE this Truth.
When we are truly ready to be free of suffering, a realized master will appear in some form to guide us. This may be in the form of a person, a sacred place or teaching, or some other form.
Then not only do we learn the "how to" instructions, but as we choose to align with a fully realized master, we are infused with the strength, purity, grace, love and clarity of the Self, which we recognize in the master and begin to experience as our own Self.
We have to ask for liberation, to be shown the Truth of our Being. Then, with deep and sincere gratitude we must choose to devote ourselves to it. And we can ask for help for that as well.
If you want liberation more than you want anything else, you will experience it. You will know your Self, which is the One Self which is All, ever at peace.
Do whatever it takes to nurture your devotion to Truth.
I also recommend writing a prayer asking the Divine to show you the Truth of your Being. Write it from your heart, from your true sincerity. Then read it from your heart, from your genuine truthfulness, several times daily.
Are you serious about wanting to be free of suffering?
If so, I highly recommend this series of 7 talks by Nochur Venkataraman. If you listen to what he shares, take it to heart, and practice it, you will be free.
Nochur is a fellow devotee of my beloved Teacher, Bhagavan Ramana Maharshi, and has generously translated Ramana's song of love and devotion to Shiva (God) from the original Tamil into English for us.
These talks are a beautiful offering of Grace to all of us.
Here is Talk 1 of 7. It begins with devotional chanting for the first 12 minutes or so, and then Nochur recites in the native language, before speaking in English. I invite you to listen to all of it, even if you don't understand the words. The vibration of the words are a powerful offering of grace, whether you understand the words or not…
When an emotion that you judge as negative arises, do you feel like you are doing something wrong? This is inherent in the conditioning of society, and sometimes intertwined in religions.
Emotions themselves aren't "bad." The only way so-called "negative" feelings create suffering for ourselves and others is if we don't allow them to be as they are and we act them out.
Instead, we can rest in the Notice-er which notices emotional energies but is not changed by them. We don't have to latch onto emotions or create a "me" identity about them.
When we take a stand as the Notice-er (Awareness), all emotional energies arise and release on their own.
Usually, in an effort to be "good" we think we have to somehow abolish anger, fear, and sadness. Then, because we can't make them go away, we also feel shame, believing that experiencing a negative emotion makes us bad.
No emotion is shameful. All emotions come from believing a thought and forming an identity around them.
Instead, notice where in your body you experience the emotional energy. All emotions have a mental and physical component. In the physical body they will manifest as a tight, constricted feeling.
Remove attention from thoughts about the emotion or the scenario that triggered it. Keep bringing your attention back to the body and notice areas of tightness.
Even though you might recognize the feeling as anger, fear, shame or sadness, let go of those labels. Instead, just see the sensation, the vibration itself.
Be the See-er that sees it. When you don't give the emotion a description, it is actually just energy, vibration, a nameless sensation. Don't DO anything with it. Don't try to make it go away, fix, or heal it. Give it permission to be as it is. Let it fill the whole room if it wants to.
Choose to be the See-er of the energy. If your gets attention gets pulled back into thoughts, give yourself the thought "I am this that is aware of the sensation" to focus on.
Now there is just you, the See-er, and this energy you see and allow.
Don't try to do this exercise to make the energy release. If you do that, you are no longer experiencing yourself as the peaceful Seer — Awareness — that sees the sensation. If you try to make it go away, you act from "I am this body; these emotions are bad and must go away," which keeps you locked into a belief of being a bad and suffering "me."
Fighting with the energy by wanting it to go away actually feeds it more energy.
If the thought "I want to get rid of this," arises, then again, be the See-er that is aware of the thought. This keeps you from getting pulled in and identified with it.
True, permanent happiness only comes from awakening to the truth of who we are.
I've discovered that there are at least two distinct stages to awakening. There may be several more, but I can only report on my experience so far. In working with others who are also in the awakening process, it seems we all go through the same shifts in perspective, but in unique ways.
At first, in everyday consciousness, we believe we are a body/mind, stuck within its limitations.
Then, as awakening begins, we are drawn to practices such as meditation, that shift attention to attention itself. We begin to notice a peace within. We still consciously or unconsciously perceive we are a body/mind, but we now sometimes also experience an inner peace to rest in.
Gradually, we begin to experience we are actually the Conscious Awareness which is aware OF our body, thoughts, emotions, experiences as well as other bodies and objects.
"I am Consciousness."At first this feels like there is still a difference between us, Awareness, and what we are aware OF.
"I'm not this body, thoughts, emotions, other objects or
bodies in the world, or the circumstances I experience.
Instead, I am the Conscious Awareness
which is aware of these perceptions."
The next organic step in Awakening, still includes:
"I am Consciousness."And it is also:
"Everything is this Consciousness. I am everything."Everything is energy… ONE energy creating an infinite number of forms — bodies, thoughts, emotions, sensations, objects, the world, and all experiences.
There IS no separation. Even though there appear to be distinctions and limits, it is all one continuous, unbroken field of energy.
Try this out. Say slowly and silently within:
"I am Conscious Awareness. All is Awareness.
I am ALL. There is nothing else."
You can add:
"I am Awareness AND I am all that I'm aware OF. I am the body. I'm thought. I'm fear, anger, sadness, and guilt. I'm the air around and in the body, the furniture in this room and the walls. I'm that person I see or think of. I am everything in the world, in the Universe. I'm all that is. There is nothing but this that is, and I am this."
We ARE space. However, we appear to be 7 billion separate bodies. But when you bring your attention to this present moment, the space between thoughts, between breaths, to the aliveness you feel in your body, to the awareness which is aware of aliveness, we occupy the same space at the same time. Actually, we ARE the same space.
Even though I am typing this Now and in mind time you will be reading it "later," this Now that is here as I type and the Now that is here as you read this, are the very same Now – the space within which everything arises.
We are this dimensionless space of Now. Even when the concept of time arises, it arises here in the Now – unlimited spaciousness.
99.99% of your body is space. The rest is atoms. Also, if you could look inside one atom, you'd discover it is also 99.99% space. Even on a purely physical level, we are space.
Notice there is stillness (space) all around your body right now. Observe the you which is aware OF stillness and spaciousness is ALSO still and spacious itself.
Be this that is aware of space. Notice the space around your body also INCLUDES your body.
We usually identify with what appears to be solid — bodies and objects. However, remember that everything that appears to be solid is 99.99% air, including your body.
So, just for a moment, instead of identifying with the 0.01% which appears to be solid, identify with the 99.99% that is air. Don't just think about it, actually experience it. It is, literally, easier than you think!
At first it might help to get past the mind by simply pretending you are air, and notice how that feels. Ignore the thoughts that say "this body is me and everything else is outside me."
You, spaciousness aren't housed inside the body. Instead, the body appears in YOU, space. Without the thought "I am inside a body" you'd only know yourself as spaciousness.
Observe this space is limitless. Chairs, walls, buildings, bodies and literally everything is made up of this vibrating, alive spaciousness. Space is true unconditional love. It embraces everything as itself, because everything IS itself.
Rather than thinking about it or visualizing it, BE it.
Remember that everything in the room you're in, including the walls and everything else you see is 99.99% space — the same 99.99% space that YOU are. Everything you're aware of IS this dimensionless space.
It may help focus your attention by saying silently, "I am space. I am everything in this room, city, country, world, and universe. I am everything that is."
Be still and observe what you experience, especially in the first few seconds after you think the words. Let the words softly repeat.
Here, we are One. Always have been, always will be. I meet you here, in this love, ALWAYS.
Sometimes it might not seem like we are One, especially with recent world events. As individuals, we don't look or think alike and we don't always share the same religion, ideology and perspective.
However, within we are not only alike, we are exactly the same BEing. When your attention is HERE in Awareness and my attention is HERE in Awareness, we are the very same "substance," the ONLY place of true, continuous peace.
Individually and as a Collective, our karma and attachment to self-concepts will continue to play itself out in this dream of experience, like a fan of suffering that goes around and around as long as it is plugged into electricity. The only way we can stop the fan of suffering is to unplug it from its power source. Suffering gradually unwinds on its own when we stop feeding it.
How can we do that?
We "stand" as Awareness OF suffering, without identifying WITH suffering.
The best thing you can do for yourself and the world is to allow your own emotions of shock, fear, sadness, anger, guilt (whether they are about world events and/or your own daily life) to come up. Choose to BE the Awareness which sees them, without building a "me" story around them.
As much as possible, decline to get caught up in the story of "right" and "wrong" and who did what to whom, which feeds energy to suffering. Our attention fuels whatever we focus it on.
When we stand in Awareness we are love. Consequently, we cut suffering off from its power source, not just for ourselves, but for this Collective One we are.
We don't have to do anything to BECOME Awareness / Love. We already ARE this. We just have to choose to stand in this we already are.
When we shift attention to THIS which is aware of emotions and events without getting involved in the story, the fan of suffering is unplugged. It still has a momentum and will continue to spin for awhile, but since it isn't getting new energy, it revolves slower and slower and eventually stops.
In any situation, whether it is in reaction to world events or to your own life events, let your own emotions come up. Don't make them bad, good, right or wrong.
To help you stay out of the story and identification with the characters in the story (including the character you think is you), shift attention to your body. Notice places of tightness or constriction. Be more interested in that than the story about what is going on. The energy constriction in the body has within it the thoughts and emotions which created it.
Silently, tell this energy in the body "I see you as you are. You can take up as much space as you want / need to."
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Let it fill the room if it wants to. Experience it, but don't get involved IN it, don't act on it, and stay out of the story which spawned the energy. Don't try to fix or change it. Don't even try to "heal" it. Be the observer of it.
In doing this, you experience both your individual emotions as well as the Collective's. We are all ONE Being.
Then silently ask within, "What is it that is aware of this energy in the body?" Notice what you experience within the first few seconds after you ask. Rest in the space which is uncovered before thoughts come back in.
Return to this "space" again and again, by letting "Who am I?" repeat within, paying particular attention to the first few seconds after the question. Notice and BE the space which is uncovered in those precious seconds before thoughts start up again.
This is YOU, Awareness, Peace.
Let's stand HERE together in peace. Let THIS vibrate in the world, all through the Collective One we are.
Commit yourself to peace. You already ARE this peace. Now we are just shifting attention to what is always HERE, what has perhaps been in the background of your attention instead of the foreground. You can do this all day long, over and over again. BE this consciously.
If visualizations of permeating the world with light, peace and love come easily to you, then do that as well.
However, the most powerful way to create peace in the world is to BE it rather than visualizing it. To be it is to find it in you. To EXPERIENCE it. Not to think about ways you "should" be it. Find the space between thoughts which already is this Peace. Even if your attention only stays here for a few seconds, each time you do it, peace reverberates in the world.
Focus on what you have to give. Even just a smile to a stranger uplifts the world. Pour your love into what you love, such as your children, partner, art, work, dance or music. Focus your time and energy on letting your love flow.
Do what you feel called to do in the world, but do it from peace.
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"We limit ourselves first,
then seek to become the unlimited that we always are.
All effort is only for giving up the notion that we are limited."
~ Ramana Maharshi
Often, we conceptualize "awakening" or "self-realization" as a rare experience for only a special few – a "state" we think is somehow added to us if we meditate enough, repeat the right mantra, or do some other technique.
However, "awakening" is the simple noticing of the every-day aliveness which already is YOU, right now in this moment, although it might be in the background of your attention, rather than the foreground.
"Self realization" is literally what it says: to REALIZE the alert, alive energy which is you, simply by NOTICING it, shifting your attention to what is already always here.
Ask yourself, "Do I exist?" Don't ask your mind. Instead, simply check your experience. "Something" in you will answer "yes." BE this that just answered "yes." Don't try to figure it out what it is. Just BE this that is here.
It is your every-day, ordinary experience that you exist. Simply shift your attention to this aliveness you call "me" that exists.
Congratulations! In those few seconds (or longer) when your attention was on this that is here rather than your thoughts about this that is here, you were "awake!" You were / are having "self realization."
"Awakening" is really just a shifting of your attention from the foreground to the background. Until we do this, we are like eyes searching outside ourselves for eyes, not noticing we ARE the eyes which are looking for eyes! And we have been "eyes" (the Self we've been looking for) all along!
YOU are what is always in the background of every experience. When you say "me" or "I," this simple aliveness which animates the body and mind is what you are actually referring to.
I recommend taking time each day to sit quietly and ask, "Do I exist?" Notice what is uncovered, especially in the first few seconds after you ask the question, before thoughts arise again. If you keep coming back to this question your experience of yourSelf will continually deepen.
Then, during the day, even while you are busy, you can also silently ask, "Do I exist?" repeatedly. Each time you ask the question, be attentive to those first few seconds before thoughts start again.
What you notice might seem like just empty space at first. But the more you rest here, you'll discover true, permanent, unlimited peace, joy and love. BE this "space."
"If you see two strangers quarreling in the distance you do not give much attention to them because you know that the dispute is none of your business. Treat the contents of your mind in the same way.
Instead of filling your mind with thoughts and then organizing fights between them, pay no attention to the mind at all.
Rest quietly in the feeling of 'I am,' which is consciousness, and cultivate the attitude that all thoughts, all perceptions are 'not me.'
When you have learned to regard your mind as a distant stranger, you will not pay any attention to all the obstacles it keeps inventing for you.
Mental problems feed on the attention that you give them. The more you worry about them, the stronger they become. If you ignore them, they lose their power and finally vanish."
~ Annamalai Swami, Living By the Words Of Bhagavan,
Edited by David Godman
Any time you notice you are suffering, check and you'll find you've been listening to your thoughts and creating a "me" around them. Even when physical pain occurs, the actual suffering always comes from THOUGHTS about the pain, which are much more debilitating than pain itself.
When you notice your attention is on thoughts, ask within "To whom are these thoughts appearing?" The mind will, of course, answer "me." Then ask, "What is me?" This time, don't ask your mind. Don't be interested in what the mind says. Instead, just BE here, present, and alert. Be this that is simply HERE. Be more interested in this than anything else.
Within, you can silently repeat "Who am I?" not only as a meditation, but all through your day. If you stay with this practice persistently, your attention will be increasingly drawn into Itself, pure Awareness, the only source of permanent peace. As you continue with this practice you'll notice more and more the YOU that has always been here, underneath thoughts and emotions.
Often when we desire to awaken to the truth of Being we assume "awakening" means something new, rare and exotic is added to us. However, if something can come which wasn't here before, this means that it will also go at some point. And if it is coming and going, it can't be you because you are still here during all the coming and going.
You are what is AWARE of what comes and goes.
To know your Self, don't look for a new experience. Instead, right now, in this moment, turn your attention toward what it is to simply be. Not your thoughts about being, but simply BE-ing. Instead of focusing on "I am happy" or "I am sad," give attention to "I am" or simply "I."
This "I" that you are is Aliveness, and is always peacefully, totally content, full and complete within Itself, no matter what thoughts or experiences arise within you.
The sun doesn't have to learn to shine and neither do you. Just uncover the You that ALREADY shines!
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The sun doesn't have to go through arduous work to shine. It already is shining! It never stops shining. However, if the sun were to get lost in thoughts like….
… then it's attention would be on the thoughts rather than on its shining-ness. Its focus would be caught up in the "me" it thinks it is rather than the shining Sun it already is.
This book answers many of the questions that come my way in WellBeing Alignment Sessions, such as:
Sometimes when we hear the word "surrender," we think it implies we have to sacrifice something we want. However, in true surrender what we let go of is our investment in suffering, which seems to veil happiness, which we actually already are.
As an experiment, for just the next 10 seconds, let go of all your likes, dislikes, individuality, and opinions. Release what you want and don't want, what you think you know, what you've done you're proud of or not proud of. Turn loose of your name, "me" and "mine." Let go of trying to solve any problems.
Just be here, in this moment.
Now, notice what is here when you let go of all that. Do this sincerely and entirely, just for 10 seconds.
During the 10 seconds, be still and let everything empty out and off. Then notice the alive energy which is "you" and is still here. Start with just 10 seconds. Later you'll be able to gradually extend it.
I find it helpful to include the body in this letting go, by going into the Child's Pose yoga position, as shown in the picture. Let everything drain out of your hands, forehead, head, body and mind. Give it to the ground.
If you have a spiritual teacher or a feeling connection with a spiritual being such as an angel, Buddha or Christ, connect with them and visually, mentally, or energetically, lay everything at their feet. You can even think of a mountain or a tree you feel a resonance with and do the same.
You and all beings are already pure, joyful Consciousness, but we don't realize it because our attention is identified with the passing river of thought. Therefore, it helps to give the mind something or someone to focus on, which serves as a bridge in focusing and aligning our attention with ourSelf – Presence, Consciousness, God, Source (whatever name you know it by).
At some point these bodies we've identified with will die. We will let go of everything then anyway. I encourage you to practice doing it daily now, rather than waiting until the body dies. You'll find all you are giving up is suffering. Meanwhile, as your life unfolds you still get to enjoy your life. In fact, you'll find you enjoy it much more!
Here is a helpful image, inspired by my teacher Ramana Maharshi: You've boarded a train, bringing your suitcase with you. Inside the train, you still stand, holding on to your suitcase. All the while, the train is happily transporting you and your suitcase to your destination, whether you strain to hold onto your luggage or not. So, put your luggage down, sit down and relax. God has you.
Everyone has experienced suffering. Even if someone appears to have an easy life, at some time they've known physical, mental, or emotional pain.
All suffering comes from believing we are a body / mind / self-concept. Until we discover we are actually the Awareness which is aware OF a body, thoughts, emotions and experiences, we suffer.
Innately we know we are more than just a separate body / mind / self-concept, but until we REALIZE this it feels like something is terribly missing.
Everything on this plane is based on polarity — up / down, feels good / feels bad. Even if you try to hold a positive self-concept, at some point it will flip into a negative one. What goes up comes down. Self concepts come and go, but you, Awareness, which is aware OF self-concepts, is always here, at peace.
What is the purpose of suffering?
Suffering is an alarm that tells us we are identifying ourselves as a body / mind / self-concept rather than what we truly are: Pure Awareness. Suffering gets our attention, eventually motivating us to look within for what we really are: Awareness, Peace.
We are like a character in a dream/movie looking everywhere in the movie for happiness, trying to add to ourselves, while pushing away anything that seems to threaten our happiness.
Eventually, after looking in every facet of the dream/movie — relationships, money, career, status, objects — for happiness and not finding a permanent source of it, we begin to suspect what we are really looking for isn't IN the movie.
We notice there is a screen which the movie, as well as the character in the movie who we think is us, is appearing IN. We notice we ARE this screen (Awareness) which animates the movie and the character called "me."
We now experience a happiness which is always here, whether a horror movie plays on the screen, a love story, or a story of awakening. The Presence / Awareness which the movie is arising IN isn't changed by what happens in the movie.
Now, even though we've experienced true, permanent happiness in Being, the old thought habit of believing we are a character arises, we listen to those thoughts and we suffer. Now, once again, suffering motivates us to practice shifting our attention back to Awareness (the "screen"), the ONLY place of true, permanent peace.
Even when physical, emotional or mental pain arises, we don't have to suffer over it by building a "me" around our thoughts. Instead, we can ask: "Who is experiencing this pain?" If the mind says "me," then ask, "Who is me?" Don't ask your mind. Just ask the question, and don't assume you know the answer. Be empty, alert, and here. Then notice where your attention naturally goes. Be This that is here, alert, and present.
Here is a direct method for knowing yourself as peace:
"When thoughts arise, one should not pursue them, but should inquire: 'To whom did they arise?'
It does not matter how many thoughts arise. As each thought arises, one should inquire with diligence, 'To whom has this thought arisen?'
The answer that would emerge would be 'To me.'
Thereupon, if one inquires, 'Who am I?' the mind will go back to its source, and the thought that arose will become quiescent. With repeated practice in this manner, the mind will develop the skill to stay in its source."
~ Ramana Maharshi,
The Spiritual Teachings of Ramana Maharshi, pg 5
The identification of being a bad, hurt "me" was persistent.
Fortunately, I opened a book from my beloved Teacher, Ramana Maharshi. After reading the quote above, I did exactly what he said.
I determined to watch my thoughts, knowing they are ALWAYS the cause of suffering. Each time I got hooked into the old "poor me" story, I asked within "To whom did that thought arise?"
I wasn't interested in mind's answer to the question. It knows nothing of the True Self. Instead, I kept attention on my direct experience. After the question I noticed and felt myself as the spaciousness within which the thoughts passed through.
Then I asked "Who am I?"
Without looking to my mind for the answer, I stayed empty, alert and present to my direct experience. I became aware of limitless, spacious Peace which everything arises in. YES! HOME again. :-)
Painful thoughts still sometimes creep back, but my determination now is bigger than ever before. I repeat the inquiry above, committed to not creating a suffering "me," which is only a series of thoughts!
I've heard that in order to deeply know our True Self, we must want it as much as a drowning person wants air. My recent trip through hell showed me there is nothing I want more than PEACE. Nothing is more precious.
This experience also taught me that to know ourselves as PEACE, we need to be determined to let go of identifying with the current train of thought passing through. When peace is our highest priority and we use inquiry, like the process above, we no longer feed the belief of being a separate, flawed self (which is actually only a thought!).
As we decline to invest attention and energy into a "self" that doesn't actually exist, then we no longer create the painful EXPERIENCE of being a separate "me."
As a result, the Shining Light (which we already ARE) is revealed!
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