As the untruth is met by the truth consciously within you, your energy field begins to vibrate at a higher frequency of love and wellbeing. You extend out and beyond the vibration of the old emotional pain. This is very much like the metaphor of “thinking outside the box.” If you think of the problem as being contained within a box, you can’t solve the problem by only looking within the box. You need to expand out beyond the box of the problem to find the solution.
In the same way, we need to expand out beyond the limited energy field of our wounds in order to lift our vibrations to a higher field and heal the emotional trauma.
The only way to do this is to consciously call in and align ourselves with a larger, higher vibration of energy – Source, God, Love, Higher Power (Insert the word you know It by.). This acts like a vibrational tuning fork, tuning us into higher, purer frequencies of energy. The old wounds and emotional pain are out of sync with this higher vibration of energy and fall away. This can immensely shorten the grief process that is sometimes involved in healing emotional pain.
Without Conscious Acknowledgment
“Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart. Love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. The point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps, someday, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer.”
It takes courage to turn inward and get investigatively honest about what you are really feeling and acknowledge your emotional pain. Usually this doesn’t happen to us until we finally decide we’ve suffered enough. If you have found yourself here and are reading this, then you are at that point – the threshold into healing. I greet you with love and understanding. I acknowledge and celebrate your courage – the part of you that has said “Enough suffering. I’m ready to heal now.”
First of all, call in the larger energy field of your Source, of Higher Power. If you’re not able to feel that yet, that’s okay. Just call on love. Invite love to join you in your emotional pain healing. You don’t’ need to know what love is or where it comes from, or even be able to feel it yet in order to access it. All you need to do is to sincerely call on it and it will be here for you.
This link will take you to an article that can help you connect with who Source is to YOU and give you ideas about how to awaken your conscious relationship with this sacred aspect of yourself.
Take some quiet, undistracted time to open your awareness to this part of yourself, and shine a light into the corners of your being that have been shielded by denial.
Your words, whether aloud or silent, focus and align your energy in specific directions. Asking inner questions focuses your attention on the answers and calls forth the corresponding material up and out of the unconscious.
Below are some examples of questions that are helpful to ask. You can use them if they feel right for you. If not, experiment and find just the right words that are effective for you in investigating your emotional pain.
Be patient with this process of becoming aware of your feelings. If you don’t get immediate results, pick just one question and carry it with you as your companion for a day, gently asking it inside whenever you think of it. Your willingness to do this consistently will gently open your consciousness to aspects of yourself you’ve never been aware of before.
It might also be helpful to write out the answers to these questions. Sometimes writing frees up parts of your consciousness in ways that speaking can’t get to.
You can also ask a trusted friend or counselor to meet with you for an hour or two. Ask for an uninterrupted span of their attention where you can explore your answers to these questions aloud, with them simply listening. If you decide to do this, it is important that you choose someone who will not judge you in any way. You can “trade” time and reverse roles with them on another occasion.
Remember to first ask Source for a cushion of love and courage to face areas that have been protected by denial. Take one question at a time and let the energy of the question sink in and do its work in helping you become aware of emotional pain.
We all have unique predispositions. Some of us are more physically oriented, while others are more mentally or emotionally oriented. You may experience your first awareness of emotional pain as an uncomfortable physical sensation, such as tightness. Or it could be mental confusion and obsession about a subject. Or you could feel emotionally overwhelmed, like being pulled into a tidal wave that has you spinning and not knowing which end is up. You may be able to determine the quality of the feeling as rage, sadness, despair, etc. If not, that’s okay. Give the feeling / sensation permission to be here within you fully, whether you can describe or define it or not. Make no judgments about yourself or your process. You can’t do this wrong. Just go with whatever you are aware of and congratulate yourself for your courage and determination to heal.
Look for even the tiniest sensation of discomfort. Often this is a mild awareness of tightness. If you keep bringing your attention back to the tightness and give it permission to show itself, your awareness of it will increase. In some cases the beginning signs of tightness are later experienced as sharp pain or as a tight constriction as you stay with this process.
Remember to stay with yourself as you do this. Talk to yourself:
As you begin to experience your emotional pain, remind yourself that there is nothing wrong with you for having this wound. Even if your current experience was triggered by something in present time, the root of it is there because there was something that happened to you in the past that caused real, genuine pain. Therefore, it is normal, natural and HEALTHY for you to feel whatever it is that you feel.
Because there wasn’t enough love and emotional support present at the time of the original wounding, it remained unhealed and the energy curled in around itself, like a fist. There is no judgment in this. Your psyche did the best it could with the resources it had at the time. As a young child you depended entirely on your caregivers and didn’t have the maturity to discern that their upset was about THEM and not you.
All this emotional trauma needs is loving attention and self forgiveness – to be touched with loving compassion without trying to fix or change it. In the original situation where you were wounded, the tendency was to make a conclusion from it – “I was punished because I was bad. I did something wrong. There is something wrong with me and that is why Mom is so upset.”
That part of you needs to know that you didn’t do anything wrong, you weren’t bad, and there was / is nothing wrong with you. I can’t say these words enough. They need to be repeated to all of us until we actually hear them and take them to heart, literally.
Whatever you did, if anything at all, was the best you could do at the time, given where you were in your spiritual evolution and the intensity of the circumstances you found yourself in.
“The key to getting inside your Vibrational Vortex of Creation; of experiencing the absolute absence of resistance; of achieving complete alignment with all that you have become and all that you desire, and of bringing to your physical experience everything that you desire – is being in the state of appreciation – and there is no more important object of attention to which you must flow your appreciation than that of self.”
You don’t need to figure out or decide what something means, whether it is something someone said or did or something you said or did, or a feeling you’re becoming aware of. Mental analysis diverts you off track and into the mind, which won’t be useful in acknowledging the emotional pain. Remember, our intention here is to acknowledge and feel the FEELING.
In order to do this, you need to be willing to BE with yourself, to turn your attention inward. This is about being with yourself and loving and accepting yourself, AS YOU ARE.
When you notice you feel “off,” trace it back. Look back in your memory for the moment you first started feeling “off.” Perhaps there was an event or something someone else said or did that caused an uncomfortable response within you. That event is mirroring a wound in your energy field. Once you pinpoint the “event” then ask the questions above to get at what you’re feeling.
If you notice yourself doing this, first of all forgive yourself. Most of our conditioning tells us to resist and blame, and it takes practice to become aware of that tendency and decline to follow it. Once we are able to forgive ourselves, it is much easier to forgive someone else. It also helps to realize that other people in our lives are just mirroring whatever we have in our own energy fields.
Once you’ve consciously acknowledged your pain and suffering you have taken a big step toward healing it. Remember to keep your channel to Source open as you experiment with the suggestions above. The unconditional love and the wound coming together, simultaneously occupying the same space at the same time, is what creates the alchemy of healing. I’ve seen some amazing miracles happen from this simple process!
Keep calling in Love to this place inside you and gently talk to this part of yourself. Let yourself know you SEE you. Let yourself know that you see that you never did anything wrong and that you know that you always did the best you could with what you had to work with at the time. Bring patience, sensitivity and kindness to this part of yourself. You will release your emotional pain and develop a sweet intimacy with yourself as well as with your Higher Power – the Source of all healing!
If you need help in bringing your emotional pain into awareness for healing, I invite you to a WellBeing Alignment Session. During your session, the places of constriction that are most ready to heal are brought to the surface. While in the protection of Safe Space, together we will bring awareness, light and love to the area of emotional trauma in your energy field, giving it the loving attention it needs to unwind.
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