All of our wounds stem from a false belief that we are separate from our Source. Ultimately, it is Source that does ALL healing. Therefore, the first step in any effective healing practice is to align ourselves with That. However, we still need to work WITH the Divine, to partner in our own healing. The human, psychological part required of you is to bring compassion for yourself, FROM yourself (more about this below), which unravels the core wound. Until then it stands unresolved in your energy field. For permanent healing we need to become conscious of our wound and be willing to bring love to this vulnerable part of ourselves, starting with self-compassion.
What Does Showing Compassion For Yourself Look Like?
Self-compassion means to fully BE with yourself in a deeply aware and non-judging way as a loyal and trustworthy friend. It is a willingness to be with yourself as a loving companion to your own pain. Self-compassion includes care, concern, solicitude, sensitivity, warmth, unconditional love, tenderness, acceptance, mercy, leniency, kindness, and charity for ourselves. Compassion for yourself is a softness that flows within you and permeates your emotional / energy wound with acceptance, unconditional love and intimate understanding.
No one in the world knows your feelings and hurts as well as you do. You know all the intricacies and tendrils of them, firsthand and up close. Because of this you are the one most qualified to bring love to this part of yourself.
Self-compassion is seeing your most tender wounds without judgment. Showing compassion to yourself is being willing to see / feel the reality of your pain without covering it up or trying to “fix” it. Once this level of self-love occurs, a door opens to the understanding of why the pain is there. As we lovingly befriend ourselves, awareness reveals the cause / effect dynamic that created the wound in the first place – a set of circumstances we experienced from which we formulated a negative belief about ourselves.
The power of compassion is seeing ourselves as Source sees us. Compassion is a God quality and when we tap into it, we have access to a very high energy field of healing and wellbeing. We get to intimately experience Source’s unconditional love for us. We discover what it is like to be loved totally, in every cell of our being, exactly as we are.
Why Do We Need Self-Compassion?
Until we consciously attend to our own psychological healing and wellbeing, energetic wounds or constrictions that stem from a feeling of being separate from Love remain in our energy field.
Others can love us and show compassion toward us, and yes, this does help. It helps us learn to open and receive. However, the compassion that does the transformational healing comes from within us. At the core of every wound is a thought / belief that we are separate from God, from Love – a fear that we are unworthy of love. It is a belief that we have accepted about ourselves. And you are the only one who can change that belief for yourself by experiencing the absolute truth of your Loveliness. This is what self-compassion does for you.
Although others may tell us that we’re good, beautiful, smart, etc., and that feels good, the wounded part of our psyche will still hold onto beliefs of not being good, smart or beautiful “enough” until we hear it from OURSELVES. All the affirmations in the world won’t work until we undo the core belief of being separate from Love with the experience of the truth that we are loved infinitely.
This completes a psychological loop that is essential for permanent healing, so that the energetic wound inside us doesn’t keep recreating itself. Until we heal the CAUSE of the wound (the belief of being separate from Source, from Love) with the Truth (that we’ve never been separate from Source and are totally worthy of Love, including our own) it stays in our energy field and keeps drawing the same painful scenarios into our experience.
As we make ourselves and our healing priority, we begin to see WHY we’ve done or said things we’re not proud of. We see that our reactions to situations aren’t because we’re “bad.” We see that we reacted because we were in pain and didn’t believe we had any other options. This realization itself opens the door to self-compassion and wellbeing.
How Do We Do It?
“Fear grows out of the things we think; it lives in our minds. Compassion grows out of the things we are, and lives in our hearts.”
Only self-compassion and self-love will fill up that inner hole that stems from a false belief of being unlovable. Showing compassion for yourself allows you to consciously and directly experience, FOR yourself and ABOUT yourself, that you TRULY are loveable and you truly are Loved. This direct experience will change your old false belief on an energetic level – spiritually, emotionally and psychologically. The resulting shift in your energy vibration also changes your cells on a physical level, releasing the energy of lack and dis-ease.
After a lifetime of practicing self-judgment, watch for the inevitable arising of self-judgment if you don’t understand this process or if you’re not able to do the whole thing in one sitting (no one does it in one sitting!). Just start where you are. Sometimes when we’ve experienced severe trauma, any talk about self-compassion can sound like a foreign language. That’s okay. Just take one piece of it, one step that you resonate with and do that one step. That one step will guide you to the next and then the next…
As you practice these suggestions for awakening compassion for yourself, don’t be surprised if it takes some time. We generally heal step by step. For some of the more intense memories from your past it may take longer to sit with and accept the feelings and bring compassion to yourself there. Don’t make yourself wrong for any of it. Bring self-compassion to yourself wherever you are in the process. Be where you are and work from there. Be kind and gentle with yourself WHATEVER is going on inside you and then voila! you are already practicing self-compassion!
All of the coping behaviors we’ve adapted – withdrawing, projecting our feelings onto other people, acting out, etc. – were devised by a part of our psyche that is trying to protect the hurt little one inside in the only way it knows how. As we bring the power of compassion to ourselves, a psychological healing occurs. Our psyche no longer feels the need to take defensive measures to protect the inner vulnerable child once it sees that we’re finally taking care of the little one in an appropriate way.
As you practice self-compassion you will discover more space and wellbeing from within. You will feel more freedom to show up as you are. As you get to know your inner child more and bring love to them, you will know true self-empowerment and trust yourself more to take care of yourself. Therefore, you will have healthier boundaries with other people and not depend on them to take care of you. As you feel more love for yourself your energy field will vibrate on a lighter level and you will therefore attract to yourself more uplifting circumstances in your life that bring you joy!
Another beautiful outcome of practicing self-compassion is your compassion for others will flow automatically and effortlessly. Once you’ve experienced compassion intimately for yourself you will have it to share with others.
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