I am happy to say that you CAN overcome depression, as well as all the related emotions that seem to pull you down. During many years of feeling hopelessly lost in it and afraid I'd be stuck in that dark place forever, I prayed for help.
Gradually, with a lot of inner guidance, I became aware of a different perspective and learned how I was creating my own suffering and how to let it go. Together we'll explore how to avoid depression in a moment. First...
To overcome depression, it's important to see how we create it. Although depression is usually associated with a deep, dull, downward pulling despair, sadness and hopelessness, it is actually the product of fear, which lies beneath the despair.
Giving belief to any self-concept infuses it with energy. Once a self-concept of being powerless is energized, it creates the painful, debilitating emotional state we call depression. Further, the emotional state resulting from the belief in powerlessness creates the perspective – the lens – we view life from.
Next, our perspective creates what we experience – the very
circumstances of our lives.
Quantum physics has proven that the person who participates in an experiment changes the results of the experiment. The only way this could be true is if what we experience is dependent on how we perceive it. Ten people can observe an accident and, when asked by police what they saw, report ten very different accounts. Similarly, in drug trials participants given placebos often heal. What we believe to be true creates what we perceive, and therefore what we experience.
Below are just some of the beliefs that are birthed from “I am separate.” It is important to realize that these unconscious beliefs aren't just in YOUR mind. They are at the core of the ego mind (the part of our mind that is dreaming we are separate from our Creator and each other) for ALL of us.
“I'm not important.”
“I'm not loved.”
“I'm not good enough.”
“I'm bad and I deserve to be punished.”
“I have no power.”
“I am a victim of other people and events.”
Believing we are powerless generates anger, judgment and blame. Anger always arises from an unfulfilled expectation. We want something to happen in a certain way, and it doesn't. So we resist “what is” and believe that our happiness is dependent on experiencing the thing that we want and don't have.
We think that if only another person, a job, (and etc.) would
change, we would be happy. This keeps our happiness conditional,
based on some perceived outer event or person. In other words, it
keeps us believing we are a victim, which takes us off the path to learning to overcome depression.
Anger is an attempt to gain control. It is an attempt to gain power and always arises if we think our happiness is dependent on events or another person changing. Think back to the last time you felt anger and you'll remember you felt puffed up energetically. Anger is an unconscious attempt to make ourselves big when we feel small. It's also an attempt to make someone else feel guilty when we ourselves feel inadequate, in the hope that they will change and our feeling of littleness will go away.
Yes, it does feel powerful when we are puffed up with anger,
but it is a false power and the very energy we think we are sending
“out there,” is actually attacking ourselves and we feel it
immediately. Projecting anger at ourselves or someone else keeps us distracted from the way to overcome depression.
It is important to not judge ourselves for experiencing any of the so-called “negative” emotions. That just heaps on more self-condemnation and won't help us overcome depression. Instead, just observe the anger. We'll talk more about this below.
When we feel powerless we attempt to push it outward. Our perception of ourselves projects outward and can take the form of “that other person isn't good enough,” “that person is bad,” or “that person shouldn't be doing that.” We judge others as we judge ourselves in an unconscious (and sometimes conscious) attempt to push the uncomfortable self-judgment outside of ourselves to try not to feel it. It is actually an attempt to create wellbeing for ourselves.
However, it never works because there is only One of us here. When we think we're directing negativity out to “someone else” we still feel it. There is no “out there.” To overcome depression we must see that we are always only ever dealing with our own mind.
A key to overcome depression and unwind the belief in being at the mercy of outer circumstances and people is to see that nothing happens to us without us wanting it. We've actually only ever been a victim of our own minds.
Choice is the first step in the creative process. Nothing comes to us or seems to happen to us without our choosing it. The choosing of the choice may be in the unconscious mind, but it is still there. However we are treated is how we subconsciously BELIEVE we should be treated.
When we really open our minds to this we see that we've never been a victim of any outer event, circumstance or person. This is an important realization to have in order to overcome depression. Whatever situation you were born into and how you were treated in your early life reflects the beliefs about yourself that you came into this lifetime with. The circumstances of your life reflect your spiritual workshop for this particular lifetime.
To overcome depression it is helpful to become aware of what your particular workshop is. To do this, just look at
the dynamics of the relationships of the people around you when you
were born and in your childhood. However you felt you were treated,
and how others in your environment treated each other, reflects how
you believed you should be treated, in alignment with your concept of
This workshop repeats over and over again in the events of our lives until we see how we create our experiences with our underlying beliefs. You may have noticed that you seem to keep interacting with people reflecting the same themes you experienced with your mother, father, siblings or whoever else was around as you were growing up.
If we stay in the perspective of “I'm a victim of that person or this situation” we are powerless, literally. That perspective gives all the power for our happiness to someone or something that appears to be on the outside of us. It is impossible to overcome depression or any kind of suffering while holding that perspective.
The Source of our true power, peace, and happiness is within ourselves. That is the ONLY place where we can access the love and connection we sought on the outside. We'll go into this true peace and power together shortly.
First, let's look a closer look at how we create our experiences.
Our entire physical life is an out-picturing of whatever is going on within our own mind. What we call physical “reality” is actually a dream.
It seems like events or situations happen that cause us to be upset. However, this is exactly opposite to how it really is. Holding upsetting beliefs about ourselves within our own minds create the upsetting emotions we feel. Accordingly, the creative power of our emotional state constructs a specific perspective we view ourselves and our lives from. Next, our perspective CREATES upsetting events that match with our perspective.
It's like we have a movie projector in the middle of our mind that continually projects “out there” the beliefs we invest with energy within us. We are literally always walking around in our own mind! And all this is very good news if you want to overcome depression, because it means you aren't a victim.
Generally, if we don't like the circumstances we find ourselves in, we try to change the circumstances – get a better job, move to another city, get a better relationship, etc. However, the circumstances are the effects, not the cause. To overcome depression we need to get at the CAUSE of what we are experiencing in order to shift it.
In a movie theater if you don't like what is playing on the screen, you can't go up to the screen and change the images. However, if you realize that the projector that is projecting those images is within YOU, then you can begin to bring awareness to the thoughts / beliefs that are creating the projections and release them.
And how do we do that? In learning to overcome depression, we observe the thoughts, beliefs, emotions
and circumstances from the Neutral Observer within, without investing
energy in them. We begin to notice that we're the Notice-er of all we
experience, not what we experience. We stop investing painful
thoughts with the power of our belief. We'll go through the process
together in a moment.
To overcome depression, we need to first accept where we are, or, rather, where we THINK we are. In actuality, we are Pure, Awake, Peaceful Spirit. That's WHERE we really are and WHO we really are.
But as the One Child of our Creator we all are together, we wanted to know what it would be like to experience being an “individual” rather than One, so we created this physical dream in order to do that. The fact that this dream seems so convincingly “real” shows us how awesome our power of creation is!
We believe we really are separate bodies, with separate lives and separate self-concepts. However, as we begin to awaken from the dream, we shift our self-concept from just being a body to believing we are a Spirit INSIDE or in the general vicinity of a body. Next, as we awaken further in learning to overcome depression, we realize that we aren't in the body at all. The body is inside of us!
The body is in the sleeping part of our Mind where we dream we are a body, but that body is an image WITHIN Mind. To illustrate, at night you might dream you are a person / body being chased by a wild animal. However, in the morning when you awaken, that person / body you thought you were, as well as the critter chasing you, vanishes.
This is similar to what happens when we awaken entirely from the physical dream. We fully remember we are Pure, Awake Peaceful Spirit and the body we thought we were, as well as the world we called “reality,” vanishes because it was just an image within Mind.
to the dream.... To overcome depression we first need to give up resisting whatever we are experiencing.
Within us, even the dream figure “us” that seems to be the main character in our dream, we can become aware of the Pure Awake Peaceful Spirit, the One Being who we all are together. We become aware of ourselves as Spirit through the Neutral Observer within.
From the Neutral Observer perspective we can observe whatever comes into our awareness. This is what I meant earlier when I said to overcome depression we start with accepting where we are, or rather, where we think we are, which is in the dream. If you're aware of a feeling of depression, observe the feeling / sensation of depression.
If what you're aware of is sadness inside, observe that. If it is anger you're aware of within, watch that. We can observe whatever arises within our awareness without judging it or trying to make it go away. We simply notice it.
As we continue to simply notice what comes into awareness without identifying with it, we begin to realize that we are the Observer, not the emotion, thought, or sensation we observe. As we observe these phenomena, we are no longer feeding energy to them. As a result, the emotion, thought or sensation of suffering dissolves.
This is how we can overcome depression and
release ourselves from all forms of suffering. We'll go through this
process together in a moment. First, let's bring more awareness to how we create suffering. The more we are aware of the process of suffering the less time we'll spend getting caught in it.
You may be thinking that it seems like something just happens and then BOOM! depression, anxiety, anger or sadness are somehow just here, and you're not aware of the mechanical process I described above.
However, to overcome depression, we can slow the process down and invite into our awareness the thought that is at the root of the whole suffering loop. We can do this by asking ourselves, “What is the thought that I'm believing about myself that is creating suffering right now?” Just asking the question invites the answer into Awareness.
When you get in touch with that thought, you'll see that it is some version of a limiting belief about yourself being separate. Even if it seems to be a judgement about someone else, at the core, it is really a judgment about yourself.
At whatever point along the loop of suffering we find ourselves, to overcome depression, we can view our experience from the Neutral Observer within and get off the loop. If we're aware of the initial thought that sparked the whole loop, instead of investing it with belief, we can just observe the thought without doing anything with it.
If we are aware of a painful perception that we are viewing a circumstance or relationship from, we can open our minds to the possibility that we aren't seeing the whole picture and that our perception is governed entirely by our beliefs, whether we're conscious of those beliefs or not.
If your perception is telling you that you need a chocolate donut to make you happy and you go into a donut shop, you will most likely be most aware of the chocolate donuts and may not even notice the ones with strawberry frosting. Outwardly, we tunnel vision in on what our inner attention is on.
If you're not aware of the initial self-limiting thoughts you invested with belief, or of the perception that is creating suffering, then to overcome depression, bring attention to whatever you ARE aware of. If your insides just feel like one big jumbled ball of suffering, then you observe that jumbled ball of suffering. By observing it you are no longer resisting it. When you decline to resist it, you are no longer feeding energy to it and the suffering loop can dissolve.
Let's say you went for a job interview and you're not happy with how it went. You feel fear, sadness, and a sinking feeling of depression, with some anger thrown in as well. There might be such a mix of emotions that you're not even sure what you feel, but you DO know you don't feel at peace.
What can you do to prevent depression from overtaking you? Let's go through the steps together...
If you stay with this process, the upset will dissolve, layer by layer, and you will experience a deeper and deeper wellbeing. As you learn to overcome depression you may need to go through the steps several times for one issue, perhaps in several different sittings, but each time you'll release a deeper and deeper layer.
What I've just shared with you is the way to overcome depression and heal ANY suffering in your life. As you practice this, you begin to withdraw allegiance from the sleeping mind (where the roots of all suffering lie) and give your allegiance instead to the Neutral Observer, the Peace that you are.
As this shift happens within, the physical dream shifts to reflect the change. Everything we experience in the dream is a reflection of where we put our attention. If we keep our attention on “I'm not good enough” we create experiences that demonstrate that.
If we choose to overcome depression and keep bringing our attention back to the Peaceful Neutral Observer, the dream we experience here begins to reflect that peace, calm and joy. And the more we rest in ourSelf as the Neutral Observer our Awareness opens into the direct experience of tender, exquisite love and boundless joy!
To support you in getting over depression, I offer WellBeing Alignment Sessions, where we go into the Neutral Observer together, invite up what is ready to be released within you, observe it together, and let it release.
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