July 07, 2008
Getting Used To Feeling Good
Well Being Stream Ezine – Issue # 003 – July 7, 2008
Meanwhile, this month’s article “Getting Used To Feeling Good” can help you in that regard. Anything that you can do to evoke positive thoughts and feelings will release streams of wellbeing flowing through you. This can both relax and enliven you at the same time.
I hope you enjoy this month’s offering.
May you always know the radiant light of your own Being every step of your way.
Kai Hu
WellBeingAlignment.com
Table of Contents
1. Featured Article: “Getting Used To Feeling Good”
2. What’s New At WellBeingAlignment.com?
Getting Used To Feeling Good
Lately I’ve noticed a curious phenomenon in us humans. Sometimes when there is a stream of things going poorly we get used to that state. Then, when something wonderful wants to enter one’s life, we sometimes squeeze off that channel of joy and find ways to negate the wonderfulness. At times we will even unconsciously or consciously push it away!
Sound familiar?
Ever wonder what’s up with that?
We Create What We Feel
Well, here’s the deal. The thoughts we habitually think create feelings we habitually feel. Those feelings are actually vibrational frequencies that you live in and emit out into the universe.
There is a vibrational law of the universe called The Law of Attraction that ensures that like attracts like. So, if you are emitting a vibration of “things always turn out badly,” guess what you keep creating! You guessed it. Because you manifest what you FEEL (vibrate), you attract circumstances that turn out badly for you.
It gets worse. Unless you do something to consciously shift your thoughts and feelings about “things always turn out badly,” that vibration becomes your “set point,” so to speak.
Then let’s say that some of the time you also think thoughts and feel feelings that are in the positive end of the spectrum. You envision a new home you’d like to live in. You imagine what peace and harmony would feel like in your work place or relationships and that feels good to you. You think about what it would be like to be wealthy and prosperous.
So, because of those vibrations that you emit when you are feeling good, you attract positive kinds of circumstances as well, to the same degree that you stay focused in a positive direction.
Your Vibrational Set Point
Just for an example, let’s say that 80% of the time your focus is on fear and other negative thoughts and feelings about things not going well, and 20% of the time your focus is on positive thoughts and expectations about things going great – envisioning best case scenario instead of worst case scenario.
In this example, your “set point” vibration is weighted in the 80% of doom and gloom. So when the possibilities of joy come in (drawn in with 20% of your energy being focused in that direction), it feels strange and foreign because it is a different vibration than the 80% – what you’re most used to.
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Things that are different and new cause us to push past our comfort zones, to grow. Often there is a tendency to fortify around that limit or edge of our comfort zone and be a naysayer to anything that threatens that, even if it is something your heart has yearned for.
So, here’s the cool thing. We can PRACTICE feeling good and change that 80% / 20% (or whatever it happens to be) ratio. We can consciously acclimate ourselves to actually feeling GREAT! You wouldn’t think this would take practice but it actually does for some of us. And generally, we know who we are. :-)
In a moment we’ll talk about ways we can practice feeling good. Before that, I want to talk about the tipping point.
The Tipping Point
Okay. We’ve decided that we want to feel good about life, ourselves, and the world around us. We’re practicing different ways to keep our thoughts / feelings / vibrations in the positive end of the spectrum more and more.
At first, you may go from 80% negative / 20% positive to 79.5% negative / 20.5% feeling good. May not seem like much but it gets things moving and shifting. If you keep practicing you’ll spend more time in the positive zone. You’ll gradually start feeling better and better and your life circumstances will shift to reflect your inner state.
After awhile with consistently, deliberately working with shifting your thoughts / feelings to feeling good, let’s say you’re at a place of 50.25% positive and 49.75% negative on average. Congratulations! You’ve reached the tipping point. Even that 0.25% over the threshold is a huge amount. It is here that your positive energy has gathered momentum and new doors of opportunity open up for you in many areas of your life.
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BUT, what I do know from my own experience is that you can make a HUGE difference in the quality of your emotional and mental outlook by deliberately working with uplifting your thoughts and feelings. And the results are so incredibly worth the effort!
Okay, let’s get to the good stuff.
So, You Want To Feel Good
Once you see this in yourself, don’t make yourself wrong for doing this. Just recognize that you’ve discovered a very human dynamic within yourself.
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Here’s an example. Let’s say someone offered you a fabulous new job. In your imagination, envision best case scenario. You make big bucks, you love the people you work with and they adore you, you have a lot of freedom, you feel creative and alive … Let your imagination run wild and FEEL how all that feels. Keep feeding attention to the positive aspects and your ability to let in good things will grow.
What About When Things Aren’t Going Well?
As you gradually acclimate yourself to feeling good, there will still be rough seas at times. This comes from a combination of factors.
One factor is that on this plane we have a buffer of time between when we envision and feel something, and when the manifestation of it shows up in our lives. So as you change your energy, you’ll need to be patient while the effects of your old thinking wash through.
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“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.” |
Here is another factor in the ups and downs of our lives: As we focus on feeling good, that sets in motion a chain of events that catapults us through the limits of our comfort zone. In other words, we grow. As we grow, we enter new and unfamiliar territory. It is uncomfortable at first. Then, as we continue to focus on the positive, we gradually become at peace with this new world we’ve entered, which now becomes a larger comfort zone than our previous comfort zone.
Then guess what happens. You got it. The whole thing happens all over again. A desire for more of something is born within you and it brings good feelings so you reach for it. As you do so, that energy pulls you up and out of your comfort zone, which is uncomfortable at first…
… And so it goes.
Find Or Build Your Anchor
When you find yourself in one of those “uncomfortable” or even downright excruciating times, it is great to have a home base or “anchor” place inside you that isn’t changed by external circumstances, thoughts or turbulent feelings.
This is a place where you can “go” inside by placing attention there. Your anchor or home base can be a central thought, a spiritual mantra, a person or teacher you feel unwavering love for, or a visualization of a lovely place where you feel safe and cared for. Whatever anchor you chose, make sure that when you go there that the feelings that are evoked are 100% positive.
It is best to establish this anchor place BEFORE things get wonky in your life. In other words, get it established when you’re meditating or during a time when you’re feeling relatively good and have some quiet time.
Here’s an example of an anchor:
Whenever I feel tossed around I go within and repeat “I,” usually as one long, drawn out sound. I do this continuously throughout the day, as often as I remember to.
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More Ways To Get The Good Feelings Going
As you follow this amazing inner guide of yours, you can “course correct” and keep yourself aligned with what is truly best for you, without having to rely on your mind to sort out all the pros and cons. Also, with following this inner guidance, you’ll feel increasingly acclimated to feeling good.
Take time to do a “Wellbeing Workshop” with yourself. Find a quiet space in your day. Sit with your eyes closed and just watch your breath for a few minutes. When you’re ready, imagine living, doing and being everything you have ever wanted. Just start with whatever comes to mind first. Then make it even bigger.
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“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” |
If you want deep spiritual realization, imagine the deepest, widest love and light you can imagine, then surrender even more deeply into that and imagine it even more pure and divine.
If you want a new home, imagine every possible thing you could have in it. Then make it even more detailed to your tastes and needs. See where it is located in your perfect location. Envision the perfect neighbors.
You’ll feel the mind resisting this exercise because it will stretch you past your “known” universe. That’s okay. Just don’t follow the mind’s train of thoughts. Bring your attention back to your positive imagination.
Be outrageous. Then be even more outrageous. Have fun with it! The point is to extend your reach past your normal every day concept of what you think you can have, do or be.
If imagination doesn’t come easy to you, try writing. Write out a description of your ideal as if you were telling someone a story. Then tell it again and make it even bigger and even more awesome. Ignore the negative thoughts and just stay with the positive flow.
Or if you’re a “feeler,” get in touch with your favorite feelings and indulge and expand on them.
Feeling Good Should, Well … Feel GOOD
Pick the exercises or suggestions above (or below) that feel the best to you. Like the old song says, “different strokes for different folks.” If any of it feels like hard work, skip that suggestion for now and try another of the suggestions that brings a surge – or maybe just a flicker at first – of excitement when you read it.
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More Help – Related Links
Bridge The Gap
This is a great exercise to incrementally change your thoughts / feelings from negative to positive. You literally build a mental bridge one thought at a time from where you are to where you want to go, changing your vibrations along the way.
Make Good Use Of Your Awesome Power Of Choice
The first step toward happiness is to choose it, no matter what. There are only two streams of thought – positive and negative. Choose the one that is in alignment with where you really want to go, and it will take you there.
How To Love Yourself
Knowing how to love yourself is extremely important for your upliftment. Self love is at the very core of wellbeing, joy, self-empowerment, and your ability to create and enjoy the kind of life you want.
Understanding Emotions – Our Remarkable Guidance System
The key to understanding emotions is to recognize them as your amazing guidance system that is tailored completely to YOU. This guidance system can help you find your own unique path to wellbeing.
The Law Of Attraction – How We Create Our Lives
The Law of Attraction is the underlying force that creates the content of our lives. It is the principle by which all things manifest. Learning how to consciously work with it can transform your life.
How to Forgive – For Your Own Sake First
Learning how to forgive is one of the most important things you can learn. Holding grudges hurts yourself far more than anything another has done to you. Here is a way to forgive yourself and others.
Mind Power – How to Break Free of Limiting Beliefs
The mind is an awesome tool for wellbeing. Use it to break free of limiting beliefs and access your unlimited Source of love, joy, creativity and everything your heart truly desires.
Energy Healing Therapy – Release Negative Energy and Liberate Yourself
By learning this simple, do-it-yourself, energy healing therapy you can clear yourself of trauma and negative energy. This liberates you to be more fully who you really are – vibrant, aware, intelligent, loving, creative, and happy.
Attitude of Gratitude – Turning Toward Wellbeing Naturally
Orienting toward gratitude automatically opens the doorway to the Source of wellbeing within you.
The Law Of Abundance – Learning To Receive
The abundance of all good energies and experiences is already yours by The Law of Abundance. However, your experience of abundance depends on your alignment with it and how open you are to receiving it.
What’s New At WellBeingAlignment.com?
Self love is at the very core of wellbeing, joy, self-empowerment, and your ability to create and enjoy the kind of life you want. Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have. All your other relationships will reflect aspects of how you feel about and relate with yourself. This article will help you become aware of how you really feel about yourself and gives suggestions on how to heal and uplift your self-feelings. Read more …
This page has been updated with more links and more information. Learning how to be happy is one of the most important things you can do for yourself and everyone around you. These tips can help you tap into the vast source of joy inside yourself.
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